I’m 18 and a senior in high school, my boyfriend is 21. We met working at a restaurant together and started dating 4 months later.

Basically he’s talked about how his family was poor growing up and I know he’s had difficulties making bills. He is actually taking a year off of college to work full time because he doesn’t want to go in debt.

I think he thinks I’m in a similar situation and views me better because he thinks I’m working hard to save up this money because I know I’ll need for college.

Really, my family is upper-middle class and my parents will be paying for my college (all the necessities, like tution, room and board, ext) and I don’t need the money at all. I just want spending money and to have some in savings just in case.

I’ve never lied to him or tried to deceive him. Do you think it will make things weird if I tell him now? I already feel bad having him pay for movies, dinners, ext when I know he’s hurting for cash and I have plenty. Am I making too big of a deal about this?

I have an uncle who tips $1 at restaurants when their total bill comes out to be $20. His wife (my aunt) admires him for that because he stands for something he firmly believes in and is not embarrassed. My uncle works really hard and use to be lower class, so he understands the value of money. Now he is upper middle class, but still goes to grocery stores with cargo shorts, ripped shirts, and a baseball hat. My aunt loves him for always being the same person he was.

I have another uncle who likes to wear nice clothing wherever he goes (even grocery shopping) and he would put an $5 tip for a $20 bill. Of course he has a wife too, but my aunts have two completely different tastes.

Which personality do you choose?