we met at disney at a restaurant named espn we went to watch final cup of soccer. we both went to spain. uh my mom says she likes me cause she always looking at me sitting next to me.. we dont see each other cause she lives in the same place but i live in house she lives around in a plaza. i told her i like her and i asked her who she likes… she told me she didnt like anyone and ive being going to her soccer practices because my brother goes too and i pretend that i came here for my friends. my uncle says that theres a girl looking at and it was her. this week im not gonna do anything i aint gonna go to her soccer practice or speak to her this week… to see what she does… her parents say to her to focus on her studies so they are kinda of strict with responsibility. what should i do? what do you think does she like me or not? what is she tryind to do… because i text her and she doesnt reply and its wierd cause after i told her i liked her she stop talking, but these 2 weeks ive being kind of leaving her alone… please tell me what to do and what u think… and try to explain in a way i can understand cause im only 13 ooh and the girl i like is 14 but she tells me i look like im 16 because of my height and personality

Place: The place has to be fun.. no fancy-pancy shit.. I’m not a serious person.

Person: He should dress properly, according to the place we are going to.. I don’t want him to wear a monkey costume to a restaurant.. LMAO. That would be funny, though.. xD

Personality: He has to have manners.. I like the guys that hold doors for me and put jackets over my shoulder when it gets cold. I find it cute… and I like it when he gives me compliments. Generally a well-mannered guy that also knows how to have a good time.

What about you?

♥ gemini sun, virgo mars, gemini venus ♥
@The second answerer: LMAO.. SEX ON THE FIRST NIGHT?! SERIOUSLY?!!
edit: YOU TOO, JACK?! LMAO.. SERIOUSLY?!
@Ashley: YES!!! Same here with the eyes!!

My boyfriend has the most gorgeous eyes EVER… I daze off just looking at them >W<

…. we went to an expensive restaurant and we ate and drink wine, and he paid for dinner. He dropped me off home and after couple minutes, he text me saying that he spent alot of money in the restaurant. We are dating about 2 months and i know that he has alot of bills and credit cards to pay off. but this was our first time that he spend alot in a restaurant.
first, I thought that we both had alot of fun, but when he said that I got so mad. And told him in respectful way that he basically is very cheap. I don’t know.. I hate these kinda guy that think only about money. Any IDEA that how I should react toward his bad personality…
I did appreciate him couple times… and I was surprised that he said that to me

I know that looks aren’t everything and I rarely base who I am attracted to on the way they look. If someone can make me laugh and has a nice personality, that’s more important to me. I’ve met some strange characters in my time lol and so these days I’m quite cautious. I’ve only ever been in one relationship and I’ll let you in on a secret…im still a virgin because im waiting for the right person (ok might sound silly, I know - but each to their own).

I’ve seen other people adding their pics on here before and I think it’s quite a brave thing to do, so here goes, just for a bit of fun…

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mimi_london/4922710171/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mimi_london/4922710239/in/photostream/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mimi_london/4922709891/in/photostream/

just ignore that old waiter in the restaurant lol. hold back on the nasty comments please

I can’t stop thinking about a guy who clearly doesn’t want me. If he wanted me he’d be contacting me. He has life problems and ex problems and we’ve gone on dates on and off the past year and a half. The last few times I spent the night at his house because we both work till about 11 frequently. There was some touching and it took us both to another world. I seriously saw purple. He said he’d dream of the day we’d actually have sex. He said me telling him no makes him want to try harder. I let him touch me because I’ve always wanted to and my friends put the idea in my head that there is no ‘us’ in these random get togethers and it’s time for a sexual act. The second time we ‘hooked up’ so say he hasn’t responded to my texts since. I got played correct?
Thanks.  you took a broken girl sweet talked her and used her, such a ‘cool player.’ what a great person.
I was not aware agreeing to his wants would make my heart and personality worthless to him. I know if he were interested he’d pursue me now outside the bedroom. How lame is that, why 
would a person ‘lose interest’ just for giving them a taste of my body? In what way does that take away from the amazing feelings I can provide and my brilliant mind? He probably thinks I’m a slut that does that with every guy, but to be honest I do that like twice a year I’m attracted to very few people so when I actually feel desire it all spills out from being repressed so long.
I’ve thought though’okay I keep saying I can make him happy, but can he make ME happy?’ obviously not. 
But I keep wondering…the two girls he’s loved what did they have that I don’t..? one is 20 and one is 16. :[ another thing, I didn’t ‘play the game.’ I’m at a point in my life I’m into being genuine. I don’t want to play 5 guys at a time. I want  only 1 that I can talk to and see whenever i want and not worry about playing a cat and mouse game.
but the good thing is. We’re both 18. I’m going to community 
college on the 16th and a problem I’ve had is a lack of girlfriends my small group off bffs this summer were all guys. I hope to meet some nice fun girls and maybe MAYBE a cute guy who will actually wanna be with me and treat me right.
I also just got a new job that I think I’ll like alot more and I get off at a decent time. I’m also likely gonna take yoga and belly dance classes as a hobby and a tactic to feel better about myself.
And this guy, he has no plans he failed high school and doesn’t have his GED. He’s a dishwasher for a restaurant. He spends alot of money on clothingitems and takes so many pictures  of himself for his little myspace for some reason. Maybe his uncertainty and current failure at life made him drop me..see another one of my excuses as to why he don’t want me..he told me too he doesn’t need anyone that he can take life by himself. Maybe he’s not even capable of a healthy relationship?
So I’m hoping he’ll see how successful I’m being and regret his decision. I’ve heard no contact can make a person miss you.
But the basis of my question..I’m just laying here listening to passion pit with a sick ball in my stomach laying here pathetically lonely thinking about him every second..this will likely continue till 5 a.m..I’m obsessed with a loser and that’s the problem.
I’ve had the problem before, I’ve got over my first love of 5 years. This too shall pass I hope college will help..but why do I hope he’ll call me..
I’m thinking about pursuing therapy if I stay sick much longer.

I’m thinking, maybe, I don’t like him maybe I’m obsessed with some mental fantasy I’ve built up with him? Been 2 wks since we saw eachother/talked.

Any wise words of advise? Please dont say im crazy, im clearly obsessed. I’m sorry this was long, I guess it was a vent post as well.

If you read this entire thing, just know that I really appreciate it.
Let’s start with some background knowledge.

Okay I’m 15 years old, male. My dad was born and raised in Iran. His parents died when he was only 12 years old and he had 13 brothers and sisters. He came here to the United States without knowing any english when he was only 17 years old in order to go to college. He had to work many different jobs including parking garages and being a busboy at restaurants just to pay for his tuition. No one ever gave him anything and he definitely knows the meaning of hard work. He has my undying respect and I just want to make him happy.
I was put into private school by my parents when I was in Kindergarten. I stayed at the same little school until 6th grade. I was babied through the whole thing and sheltered from the real world. I had no idea what it was like beyond those walls. I asked my parents if I could go to magnet school. They quickly agreed to it because they too saw that I was going no where in that place. Starting my 7th grade year I was at a new school. It was a magnet school so it was literally about eight times bigger than my previous school. I knew absolutely no one. I met a lot of different people there who were “outspoken” to say the least. I had never seen people like this before. They were foul-mouthed and flamboyant, and I was just quiet and shy. Since I didn’t know anything about myself, I grew attached to these people and sort of molded my personality to match theirs. Soon, by 8th grade, I was just like them. At my old school I made above satisfactory grades. At this new school I made mostly B’s and C’s. Now to my dad, this was unacceptable and I needed to work harder. At this point in my life, I blamed all my poor grades on me being babied at the private school and making a quick transition to this new school without any preparations. This was why I was “lucky” to be getting the grades I was getting. This behavior continued all the way through the first half of my freshman year in high school. I was the same kid and this time I had the “freshman mentality” where I thought I could do anything I wanted because I was in high school. This quickly died out after my dad and I had some fights and I came to my senses- halfway. When the second semester started, I began to try harder in school. I studied, did all my homework, and tried my best to understand what my teachers were saying. My grades improved to As, Bs, and minimal Cs, however I was still a rebellious teen.
Now the summer after that school year was a turning point in my life. My dad’s wishes started sinking in more. I started to clean up my act with a change in wardrobe, I cut my hair so it was short and clean, and I developed a new sort of mentality where I thought I was better than everyone else. I thought I was smarter and more focused than all of my peers. I had a lot of friends, but I talked about most of them behind their back, saying that they were going no where in life with the sort of behavior they had. I tried my best to keep my dad happy. My entire sophomore year I had A’s and few B’s. The last quarter of the year I actually had all A’s. Early in the year, I made a new friend and we shared the same mentality. We were both looking ahead to the future and had high hopes for where we were going in life and she also had a demanding father. As the year went on, I seemed to get more distant from most of my other friends. I noticed I had changed so much. I was no longer the same person who I was when I met them. I was feeling alone, but it wasn’t too bad since I had my best friend. It wasn’t until recently when she changed. She realized that she was so busy looking to the future that she was missing out on everything in the now. When she told me this, I just felt even more alone. I felt like I was the only person I knew that was so obsessive about his future as I was.

Now here’s the question:

What can I do to try and change my mentality to a more laid-back set of mind?

I may be obsessed with where my life is going, but I don’t want to lose my teenage years over it. I’m torn. I just can’t seem to find a common ground. My head says to keep focusing on my goals and leave everyone else behind. My heart says that any day can be my last day on this Earth and I might as well enjoy every single one that I’m blessed to live.

A guy I met yesterday at an audition (he already belongs to the group, im new) was really welcoming and we chatted for ages about everything and nothing - he had a good sense of humour and seemed like a real gentleman - ok not a stunner but cute with a nice personality, very intelligent.

There were a few things I noticed:

He mentioned that was single - just dropped it in the conversation when he was talking about himself

He also kept suggesting that I go with all of the members of the group (him included) to a restaurant afterwards, very nice, considering that I’ve never met any of them before…but I noticed him and his friends (two new members as well) were the only ones suggesting it lol. there is a bit of a clique in the group to be honest, dont think they’re keen on new members lol.

He was agreeing with everything I was saying (not sure if he’s just being polite) and I was shocked at what a gentleman he was (as all Ive known so far is disrespectful men from my dad’s country, where women’s opinions aren’t important lol) this guy is english and is so much more down to earth.

He introduced his two friends to me and then kept teasing one of them (basically trying to make him look stupid) and then seemed a bit annoyed when they started talking to me, went red in the face and made an excuse to go and chek on something - like he was feeling uncomfortable, although he introduced them to me.

He asked me a lot of questions, took interest in what I said, stared into my eyes and at my lips while he was talking to me (which made me feel bit uncomfortable). When I made excuses to leave he said ’see you again soon babe, yeah?’ in front of his friends - even though there’s no guarantee of that as I may not have a part in the production…it depends on the auditions.

There were other girls there my age who were new but he didn’t talk to them, so it’s not just because i was the only ‘new girl’ there.

I keep thinking about him…another girl who was there kept trying to but in our conversation and seemed annoyed when he was talking to me..so maybe she got the impression he was interested. Any opinions on this guy?

In the past ten years I have suffered a lot of losses and failures (death of several closes family members, illness, job loss, car repossessed, abandoned by husband, etc). It seems like I should be able to bounce back, but I’m not. I feel like things will never get better. At heart, I am an optimistic person, but it seems like life is to much for me to handle. I have not family or friends to be a support network. Everything seems hopeless. According to people, I am smart. I have a lot of marketable skills: certified elementary school teacher, office work, working with individuals with special needs, organizing, restaurant management/chef. I am average looking with a pleasant personality. I recently lost a lost of weight. People who know me hardly recognize me and compliment me on how much healthier I look. Seriously, if you were me, what would you do? I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Nothing is too crazy or out of the question. Maybe I could relocate, or pursue a different line of work. I’m confused about what i should do with the rest of my life. Any ideas?

Throughout my years of working customer service I have stumbled upon the unhappy customer. Big surprise right? However, it seems that certain people like to start trouble more than others. I am more of a laid back type and tend to think before acting. I sometimes wonder if the unruly individuals have an internal problem or that is just their personality? If I am in a restaurant, retail store, etc and the worker accidentally messes up, big deal? We are humans not robots. I understand and move on. However, if it is intentionally, that’s a different story. Phew, just had to get this off my chest. Anyone know what I’m talking about? Past experiences are welcomed!

I have a little boy who just turned 4 this past April. He really has always been pretty laid back and an easy child to raise. I always did time outs with him, and with his personality they were always extremely effective. My question is about when he gets excited. When my son gets excited, he seems to become jumpy and get the “ants in the pants syndrome”. An example would be for Mothers Day we met my in laws @ a restaurant for breakfast. He was excited that we were all there together for breakfast (meeting @ a restaurant is something new). While there he sat next to my husband which in my opinon is an AWESOME daddy, but much more laid back than I am with parenting and pretty much everything. While there, my son was sitting in his seat, but saying things like “chocolate, chocolate” —while drinking his chocolate milk, and extremely energetic and bouncy (i don’t know how to explain it). My niece (my sister in laws daughter) who is about 10 months older wasn’t doing any of this and was just sitting there quietly eating her breakfast. I got upset by my son’s behavior but didn’t say anything except—”Calm down”—and my husband would say things like “i got it” and then just allowed this behavior. At one point, my son was leaning on my husband during breakfast as if they were snuggling @ the table ( it looked very awkward). At another point, my husband put his hand over my sons mouth (in a very non aggressive way) just to try to get him to stop being so loud (which tells me that he agreed that his behavior was a little too much). When I spoke with my husband in the car, he told me this was normal behavior for a 4 year old when they get excited. Maybe getting excited is normal, but I do want to teach my son better ways to express excitement rather than being soo jumpy. On a positive note, he sat in his seat, he didn’t run around, he was very pleasant and respectful to everyone. Any tips, suggestions on what to do about this “excited” problem??