I’m an Asian girl, and I dated this white guy for 3 months now. We never had any conflicts regarding our race or culture. I consider myself as having grown up accustomed to the Western culture and food. Anyway, one day, just after dinner, we were sitting there doing nothing, he suddenly shared with me that he didn’t feel comfortable when we went to a Chinese “Dim sum” place that day. The food, people and culture were so different. It was as if he was in a foreign country. He felt he didn’t belong and he didn’t want to associate with that culture. But it was the only time we ever went to a Dim Sum place together. Most of the time, we went to Western restaurants. Anyway, i asked him what was he trying to tell me. He said he has been thinking of our future, and it bothers him a little that he would be ‘different’ from most white people. He asked himself if this is what he wants. Emotionally, he wants to be with me and he enjoys our times together. But something is telling him that he should date and marry a white girl, cos that’s the conventional thing to do. He said that he is not at peace about our interracial relationship, and that he wouldn’t marry unless he has peace. I asked him why hadn’t he thought of this before cos he had dated a few Asian girls before me. He said he didn’t realize he has changed so much over the last 10 years. He also brought up the issue of us having kids in the future. He said he will be concerned that our kids will have identity issues, because he knows of mixed people who have identity issues. I disagreed with him, because in my home country, Singapore, mixed people are being looked upon as “having the best of both worlds”. He said that’s not the case in America. I asked if his such thinking will change as time goes by, he said he is not sure, things are so uncertain. I was very disturbed by what he said. After knowing what’s on his mind, i wont be able to face him the same way again. I went home and thought about it. I realized I can’t compromise on my self esteem. If it’s something wrong that I did, i can very well change. But if its a race issue, i can’t change it. My self esteem told me that i should break up with him before he breaks up with me now or in future. So I asked him out the next day and told him that we should take a break from seeing each other. He looked so hurt when I said it, so I cried. It broke my heart to see him hurt. I do love him very much. But I’d rather end it now than much later. He held my hand and asked me if he hasn’t been good to me? In between sobs, I told him he has been very good to me, that’s the problem. I can’t change my race, and I can’t make him think differently either. It’s been 2 days since our break up. I still think I have done the right thing, even though emotionally I don’t feel right. Tell me, could I have done it better?

I am university undergrad
First of all, I like being with friends, I like to talk
So it is not like I am antisocial or anything
But whenever I eat, I like to eat alone and enjoy my food without distraction
I enjoy peace and quiet
In other word, I prefer not to sit with my friends or anyone while I eat
But sometimes when they ask me to sit with them, I don’t know how should I say to them nicely that I prefer to sit alone
Any suggestions of how should I say it so they will leave me alone but not hurt their feelings?
There is a restaurant near our dorm which most people go and eat, btw
Thanks for answering

Why do you bring your noisy, squealing, screaming, crying, tantrun-throwing children to the following places: libraries, movie theaters (to movies children should not be seeing), nice restaurants, coffee shops (destined to those of us going to school and trying to study), airplanes ect? I can put up with it at grocery stores ect, but not at the others. Some places require peace and quiet, plain and simple. Why is it that people get so offended when they get asked to leave a restaurant or theater because their child is disturbing other paying customers?
as far as movies: i’m talking about very age in-appropriate subject matter (and yes, paying $10.50 to see a movie, and not be able to hear it b/c this 4 yr old keeps screaming “mommy” the whole time is annoying) as far as the library, i’m referring to the reference section..not the kids section!
LOL, no, I am not studying childhood education And no, I don’t have children, after years of being forced to babysit, I made up my mind I would NEVER have children.

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