Okay, I have a boyfriend, actually a fiance, who has been in a relationship with me for a year.
Since last June I’ve been living with him in his mom’s house and we started having tons and tons of arguments ever since then. I’d say many time when we have an argument is my fault, but this time I can’t admit that it is “totally” my fault (I mean by it that there is at least 1% of ‘his fault’).
and Here’s the situation in which I need your answers based on the following facts.
(Fact 1)
We planned to go to see fireworks on 4th july
He wanted to make the day special so he even thought about wearing a same shirt he wore last 4th july and having a dinner at the same place we had last year
Fact 2
I started taking birth control pill 2weeks after I moved in and he argues that I get upset for nothing these days when I think there is always a reason.
Fact 3
He’s so obsessed with his iphone so much which eventually made me so paranoid about seeing him using iphone whenever he is using and no matter what he is using that for.
*The situation
He picked me up at my work and drove us to where there fireworks would be.
We got there early so we could find a parking spot near the place.
But I was so in a hurry for using bathroom and instead of parking near somewhere for a sec for me where there is a restroom, he kept driving to somewhere.
Finally, there was only one parking spot luckily right in front of a restaurant where he planned to have our dinner, but the restaurant was closed and he got a bit upset (I was so in a hurry).
After we got out of the car, I asked him what time the fireworks start as he was about to try to find the other restaurant with his iphone(this part of using iphone was totally fine to me)
I had to use restroom so bad that I had to run down to Vons that was 3blocks away(long 3blocks) and he was waiting for me ‘doing nothing’ while I was gone.
I came back and now he told me that we needed to walk few more blocks to get to the other restaurant he found on google.
(at this moment, he got on my nervous a bit cuz he made me walk down to the grocery store but i had to walk more and my feet were already too painful to walk even that long after my work,,,i stand all day long cuz i work as a cashier)
Okay, the second restaurant was closed too…my bf now seemed more upset and even showed me his a bit of frustration and anger when it’s not my fault (he’s got a hot temper).
Although our plan was to eat first and the fireworks is still 4 hours ahead, Instead of trying to find some other places to eat, he now move on for searching google to figure out the time for fireworks (but for some reason it took him more than 15min to get the result which he expected to find in 30sec usually).
He wanted to finish searching it in front of the second restaurant that was closed so we were sitting.
Although the thing he was doing was “for us” (i mean trying to find out the time for fireworks), I felt like I am nothing again as usual while he is using his iphone (actually i was going to get something off of this nose while he was googling, he almost yelled at me cuz i was interrupting what he was doing).
When we finally left the second restaurant for somewhere else after he’s done with the search, he now finally tried to find another restaurant and this time he made sure it was open by making a phone call.
He ‘finally’ put his iphone into his pocket and tried to hold my hand but i was already upset.
My point is this.
I think using his iphone was not necessary for figuring the fireworks time and rather he could’ve talked to me walking along the street and tried to figure that out after eating dinner because we still had like 2 and half hours til 8 o’clock after having dinner and we knew for sure fireworks wouldn’t start earlier than 8 anyway.
Although he didn’t expect that it wouldn’t take him more than 15min to find the result out online, if it seemed to take long and he knew that I was too tired of walking or sitting outside, he shouldn’t have so pissed off at me only asking him to stop using iphone on the street.
He thinks that i nag about so small things ‘all the time’”He thinks i do not respect him in any way on this day of the situation since i tried to stop him from doing something for US”
He thinks that I get angry for nothing and my birth control pill must cause that, but i don’t think so cause we had lots of fighting even before that.
I just want to prove that this situation isn’t 100% my fault.
and I also want to ask you guys that if there is any one of you who feels the same way as me.
Why couldn’t he make the day even better without getting on my nerves with his iphone when he knows so well that it bothers me often since it was supposed to be a special day.
I would really appreciate if you guys give me as many case as pos