Okay, so I started this new job at a restaurant. This guy started the same time as me and so naturally talked to him during the first few days of work and whatever. Well shortly after I met him he started coming up on his day off and wanted to buy me lunch. He would drink whiskey (like 2 30 in the afternoon) and wanted to take me out. I told him no and that I had a boyfriend but he wouldn’t stop. He is also like 26 and I am 17. I told one of my guy friends at work that he was being really persistent and if he say him over talking to me to tell me to go do something so that I could get away. Well the next day after that he came up and was like ” Did you tell me you had a bf because you felt uncomfortable”, “I don’t want it to be awkward just bc I think you’ re gorgeous”. I made it clear again that I didn’t want him bothering me. He then started coming up to me at work and touching me, like on the waist and such. It made me really jumpy and nervous at work so I ended up telling the manager and he said don’t worry he won’t be touching anyone anymore, consider it taken care of. He also let it slip that people had complained that he smelled. Well now at work he still comes up and does a creepy smile and talks to me even though I won’t speak to him. He also waits til threres no one else around and will say something in a low voice like “Don’t hate me, woman”. If I even look in his direction he does a creepy smile and raises his eyebrows at me. I feel so uncomfortable. I don’t know what to do. Its not really the managers responsibility to keep him from creeping me out as long as he is not touching me I guess, but people at work have noticed how he is acting around me. What should I do? How can I make him leave me alone? Should I consult with the manager again, even though he hasn’t touched me? Please some advice. Thank you

So in a nutshell my fiancee dumped me 2 months ago, 3 weeks before our wedding. I have moved out, she has blosked me from seeing her wall on facebook and photos of us together yet she has allowed my friends to still see her wall. I bumped in to her at a party and she spoke to my brother but then was animosity personified towards me. Then she turned up @ my party at Proms in the Park. She spoke to one of my ‘friends’ then saw I was there and left quickly without even saying hello. I don’t know if she still misses me but I guess not. Anyway I still love her and would love to contact her. However, I don’t know what to do. Does it sound like she is over me?
I went to a restaurant last night that I went to with her - can i email her saying ‘hey, I went ‘x’ restaurant and remembered what fun we had. Anyway, How are you doing?’ What should I write to her?

PLease help

She’s a friend of a friend, and we were talking for a bit. So I asked her out. I immediately didn’t feel a connection. I am not one to run on a date, so I continued it. I left her a message after and wished her the best. But she returns my call saying she wanted to be friends, and hopes that we can hang out again.

We met up at 6 pm, walked around a farmers market. She inquired about dinner. So I took her to a restaurant where I had no reservations, the host told me they were booked the entire night as I expected. The chef spots and recognizes me, and asks me to come back in half an hour, that he would set a table in the kitchen. So we sat on the beach for an hour before having dinner. Of course the host and chef are apologetic and extremely accomadating. When I dropped her off to her car, I wished her a good night and that’s all. The beach and restaurant thing kind of just happened; and I guess could be perceived as romantic…not my intentions. Was I leading her on in some way? And does she really just want to be friends?

Ummm… I’m really bad at short versions, so here’s the whole thing,

I think either my friends are changing or I’m changing or something. I feel really…far away. I have been absolute best friends with this girl, Chloe, and her older sister Andrea, since I moved here in Kindergarten and I was having a sleepover with Chloe and we were talking about our circle of friends and how good of friends everyone was in it, like the five of us are really good friends, and then you and me are best friends and she’s best friends with her… you know that kind of stuff. Then idk what exactly she said but she started talking about how good of friends she had been with these two other girls in preschool or something before I moved here. Then she started talking about how we got to be best friends spending every day after school together because our mom’s were best friends.

She made it sound so… like it had nothing to do with us that we were friends, just time. So I asked why do you think we’re best friends now, I mean instead of you and Breanne?(preschool friend) and she just said because we spent so much time together.
But I kind of felt like there were lots of things that made us great best friends. I just remember every once in a while imagining what my life would be like if I didn’t have a best friend to talk to everything about. And I couldn’t. And I couldn’t believe that she thought the only thing that made us close was time. So I said “That’s all? Just time? like you would be Breanne’s best friend if you had spent more time with her?” and she just said “Yeah”

But the thing about Breanne is that Chloe acts so different about her. Sometimes, I like Breanne. She’s easy to talk to when she’s…calm I guess… But most of the time she is really loud and annoying. She’s one of those people who walks into a room and suddenly it’s all about them. She talks really loudly and when she laughs…everyone in the building knows she’s done something “funny”. She doesn’t do anything normally when she’s in that mood. Everything is a big deal and if she doesn’t know someone she’s really rude to them. I guess some people think it’s funny, but I really don’t. So I’ll just be there, not laughing I guess and then people will be like Rory, you are such a fun-kill or whatever and I always just shrug, but most of the time I try to kind of blend into the crowd or something before they can start saying stuff like that.Breanne always just yells really loud “RORY’S NOT HAVING FUN BECAUSE SHE IS EMBARRASSED BY US!!!!!! I just want to tell them that I love having fun, but being rude to total strangers and doing stupid things isn’t my idea of fun. Once I told Chloe that, when it was just us, but she was kind of indifferent about it.

But the worst times are when Breanne makes it all about her by acting depressed. Once we all went to a bonfire and we couldn’t find her, so we told the parents inside and everyone around and we all got out flashlights and were calling her name for over an hour, driving around town, calling anyone that might know, and then finally she just climbed out of a tree right next to the fire in the yard. She could hear us the whole time, but she just wanted us to look for her.

Anyway, Chloe gets a lot like Breanne when she’s around her. For a while they were hardly even friends, but they’ve “been spending a lot of time together lately” or something I guess. Chloe told me this morning that she and her sister Andrea were talking about how I’d been being really boring lately and she thought I loved dancing in the rain. She was talking about the day before, when I had stayed inside when they went out. I told her I do love doing that just not running yelling and screaming out of a restaurant doing it and then shaking my hair out on the people in the table next to us. We were all going to go to Chloe’s house after that too, but I just didn’t go, I just went home without telling anyone. Andrea said it was really unlike me and was something up and I said no, and Chloe didn’t say anything. Probably didn’t even notice I wasn’t there.

They just take their “freedoms” really far I guess. And I’m always just the boring one for not doing it. But dang it, I just don’t want to!

Then we went to see a movie tonight and Chloe kept on saying hey you guys my parents are letting me take ONE person to the party tonight after the movie! When there were almost ten of us there! And she’s always been really tactful about stuff like that, but it’s like she just loses it around Breanne. Then after the movie she just screamed BREANNE WANNA GO TO THE PARTY WITH ME????!!!! and then they started jumping around the lobby bumping into random people and squealing and whatnot…
Anyway, Chloe gets a lot like Breanne when she’s around her. For a while they were hardly even friends, but they’ve “been spending a lot of time together lately” or something I guess. Chloe told me this morning that she and her sister Andrea were talking about how I’d been being really boring lately and she thought I loved dancing in the rain. She was talking about the day before, when I had stayed inside when they went out. I told her I do love doing that just not running yelling and screaming out of a restaurant doing it and then shaking my hair out on the people in the table next to us. We were all going to go to Chloe’s house after that too, but I just didn’t go, I just went home without telling anyone. Andrea said it was really unlike me and was something up and I said no, and Chloe didn’t say anything. Probably didn’t even notice I wasn’t there.
They just take their “freedoms” really far I guess. And I’m always just the boring one for not doing it. But dang it, I just don’t want to!

Then we went to see a movie tonight and Chloe kept on saying hey you guys my parents are letting me take ONE person to the party tonight after the movie! When there were almost ten of us there! And she’s always been really tactful about stuff like that, but it’s like she just loses it around Breanne. Then after the movie she just screamed BREANNE WANNA GO TO THE PARTY WITH ME????!!!! and then they started jumping around the lobby bumping into random people and squealing and whatnot.
But I don’t want to talk to her about it, anymore than I have. I feel like if I do, it will just be like I’m whining. She’s told me before that Breanne was just being mean to me sometimes because she was jealous that Chloe thinks of me as her best friend. But I don’t want to be all like No, I WANT HER, No, IIII want HER!!! about Chloe agh it’s just… ghaaah. It’s frustrating. It makes me not want to spend any time with my friends. Usually I’m the one who plans things and gets everyone together, but lately I haven’t had the heart to. I feel like it’s my own fault I’m isolating myself in this vicious cycle or something.

So, I don’t really know what’s going on. If someone looking at this from the outside has any insight, it would be greatly appreciated.
oops sorry, I added the details twice lol it didn’t all fit the first time so I had to cut and paste…
Crystal - The thing is that I live in this really small town and there are only two friend groups- these girls that think they’re really hot and are always having cat fights and drama and switching between the different guys at my school and my group of friends! Andrea is the mature one that I know, I guess.

my friends have like so nice restaurant so i guess they use real money, do u use real money on facebook games??

Until I left university making friends was so effortless its like I cant remember how I did it. I guess because I was around people I had something in common with and we instantly clicked.

Now after graduation we are scattered about all over the country and are at least 3-4 hours apart. Not the kind of journey you can do regularly without tiring yourself out or going broke over the train fares. In the last year I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve hung out at someones place, gone to the cinema with friends or out for a drink or meal.

I’m not saying I am a big party animal who wants to go out all the time but I really hate going home after work and sitting in night after night with no one to meet up with. I’ve tried making new friends but I don’t really seem to be making any progress.

I thought I’d make friends at work and although people are friendly they mostly have such long commutes that outside of work we are nowhere near each other. Making friends in my local town is hard as its a cold unfriendly place. My family have lived in the same house for more than 10 years and the neighbors don’t really talk to each other.

I tried joining clubs, or groups and I volunteer but the people I meet there aren’t really my type. Beyond the activity, we have nothing in common. My idea of fun is going to see a film or hanging out at someones place watching DVDs, theirs is going to a posh restaurant and having a serious conversation. Plus I cant afford expensive restaurants.

I’ve tried looking into where people like me tend to hang out in my area, bars, the library, cafes, but the problem is that I don’t think there are a lot of people like me. I don’t have a car so I can’t get to other places easily. I was hoping to find local friends. Its been more than a year and I’m worried I’ll never make any new friends
I guess I just don’t see that many people that look like they want to talk.

im weirded out by the idea, the moment that i will have sex for the 1st time. im 21. the only possible explanation to me is that when i was about 1, my mom’s physcho uncle kinda forced himself on me. OR that i have been treated like a little kid my whole life. i have researched it online, and hey, it seems interesting. definetly different. but i am so scared of the moment that i will have to… pull down my pants or something. haha.
i’ve been getting close with this guy that i work with for over a year, he is so perfect for me. we are bf/gf, i guess….. but our relationship is totally on the downlow. we tell each other i love you and all that. we are coworkers at a restaurant, he’s a cook & im a waitress. he’s 27. he’s never pressured me into anything.
2 nights ago when we went out, he said he wanted to ask me something but he didnt want me to think i was a type of dude that he isn’t. i told him i wouldn’t get mad, and it took him a minute but he finally asked me if i have ever had sex…. i told him im a virgin. well anyways, we were just talking, and he asked if i was afraid of him, and i told him no, i wasn’t. and then that lead to maybe. he asked if i was afraid because ive never done it before and i said i guess… i told him im not like the virgin mary like, i have to someday. and i do want to. he told me that he wants to, whenever I am ready, like, he’s not going to ever make me do anything. I said thats cool. After we were chilling in my car, he wanted out of my car and it was kinda cold outside, so we couldn’t do anything. it was late. he got a hotel room for like 2 hours and we didn’t do anything but make out, lay down and just talk…. all he did really was slip his hand under the back of my shirt. haha.
anyways, my question is, i am in love with him as i will ever be. i can NEVER stop thinking about him. and for the first time ever, i love going to work just because i get to talk to him more and see him there. i think he is the perfect guy for me. How come I am not ready to have sex with him yet?? I know he has always been really respectful to me, and he is definetly not a virgin, so yeah, i do want to. I just can’t work up the courage to say I am ready…………… help? lol

A flaming homosexual sashays into the roughest, toughest truckstop on the highway, a
parakeet on his shoulder. He looks around the restaurant at all the burly
truckers and announces loudly, “Whichever one of you big bruisers can guess
the weight of this darling parakeet gets to go home with me.”
Silence falls over the truckstop. Then one of the toughest-looking
guys speaks up. “That’s an easy one- five hundred pounds.” The dainty homo
shrieks delightedly, “We have a winner! We have a winner!”
ok i thought about that but i really thought it would be better.

My ex GF(she is 24 and I am 28) broke up with me two months ago, but has been initiating contact with me (90+% of the time) ever since. Trying to find out what I’ve been up to, not getting great answers from me because I am guarded, then turning down potential coffee with me and then rehashing the same cycle every two weeks..

In this latest round though, she admitted to missing my company, indirectly invites me over to her place to visit a kitten I bought for her before we broke up (which I sidestepped), says she cares about me, sends me pictures of herself then pretty much disappears..which has been custom.

Finally had enough of it and changed my phone number so that I would not be tempted or tortured by the prospect of hearing/not hearing from her. Cut her off..but feel like I owe myself an opportunity for complete closure.

Wrote her a letter basically letting her know that it does not feel good to hear from her if all of these strings are attached and that she should meet me at a restaurant at a certain time on a certain date in order to keep me in her life– because these are post-breakup games and all for positioning it seems…for what I don’t know. I guess I need to know what she’s really about and the childish text message games won’t do after a while.

I really do care about this girl and don’t understand or want to try to understand the psychology of what’s going on here…but most ‘experts’ say not to try to push an ex into a situation that would make them uncomfortable….Well, I am pushing…but is it wrong to set the agenda and be decisive as a guy in this situation? I’m just trying to see if words = actions.

Thanks in advance for reading this long thing.

Hi I’m on my mid 20s,pay my own bills,pay my part of my rent,going to school soon,I don’t smoke,I don’t do drugs,I don’t drink, & I work at a nice restaurant as a kitchen quality assurance. I’m a night person & I go to sleep @ 4am & wake up late. I guess that now people this days don’t sleep early anymore & I usually do is using my PC,reading a book, & playing video games. My mom she gets very mad with me for staying up late & she wants me to learn to drive a manual because I’m the only person in my family that doesn’t know how to drive a stick. Does my mom needs to back off or is it bad idea staying up late & not studying to drive a manual stick shift? Thanks. : (