my friends have like so nice restaurant so i guess they use real money, do u use real money on facebook games??

Until I left university making friends was so effortless its like I cant remember how I did it. I guess because I was around people I had something in common with and we instantly clicked.

Now after graduation we are scattered about all over the country and are at least 3-4 hours apart. Not the kind of journey you can do regularly without tiring yourself out or going broke over the train fares. In the last year I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve hung out at someones place, gone to the cinema with friends or out for a drink or meal.

I’m not saying I am a big party animal who wants to go out all the time but I really hate going home after work and sitting in night after night with no one to meet up with. I’ve tried making new friends but I don’t really seem to be making any progress.

I thought I’d make friends at work and although people are friendly they mostly have such long commutes that outside of work we are nowhere near each other. Making friends in my local town is hard as its a cold unfriendly place. My family have lived in the same house for more than 10 years and the neighbors don’t really talk to each other.

I tried joining clubs, or groups and I volunteer but the people I meet there aren’t really my type. Beyond the activity, we have nothing in common. My idea of fun is going to see a film or hanging out at someones place watching DVDs, theirs is going to a posh restaurant and having a serious conversation. Plus I cant afford expensive restaurants.

I’ve tried looking into where people like me tend to hang out in my area, bars, the library, cafes, but the problem is that I don’t think there are a lot of people like me. I don’t have a car so I can’t get to other places easily. I was hoping to find local friends. Its been more than a year and I’m worried I’ll never make any new friends
I guess I just don’t see that many people that look like they want to talk.

im weirded out by the idea, the moment that i will have sex for the 1st time. im 21. the only possible explanation to me is that when i was about 1, my mom’s physcho uncle kinda forced himself on me. OR that i have been treated like a little kid my whole life. i have researched it online, and hey, it seems interesting. definetly different. but i am so scared of the moment that i will have to… pull down my pants or something. haha.
i’ve been getting close with this guy that i work with for over a year, he is so perfect for me. we are bf/gf, i guess….. but our relationship is totally on the downlow. we tell each other i love you and all that. we are coworkers at a restaurant, he’s a cook & im a waitress. he’s 27. he’s never pressured me into anything.
2 nights ago when we went out, he said he wanted to ask me something but he didnt want me to think i was a type of dude that he isn’t. i told him i wouldn’t get mad, and it took him a minute but he finally asked me if i have ever had sex…. i told him im a virgin. well anyways, we were just talking, and he asked if i was afraid of him, and i told him no, i wasn’t. and then that lead to maybe. he asked if i was afraid because ive never done it before and i said i guess… i told him im not like the virgin mary like, i have to someday. and i do want to. he told me that he wants to, whenever I am ready, like, he’s not going to ever make me do anything. I said thats cool. After we were chilling in my car, he wanted out of my car and it was kinda cold outside, so we couldn’t do anything. it was late. he got a hotel room for like 2 hours and we didn’t do anything but make out, lay down and just talk…. all he did really was slip his hand under the back of my shirt. haha.
anyways, my question is, i am in love with him as i will ever be. i can NEVER stop thinking about him. and for the first time ever, i love going to work just because i get to talk to him more and see him there. i think he is the perfect guy for me. How come I am not ready to have sex with him yet?? I know he has always been really respectful to me, and he is definetly not a virgin, so yeah, i do want to. I just can’t work up the courage to say I am ready…………… help? lol

A flaming homosexual sashays into the roughest, toughest truckstop on the highway, a
parakeet on his shoulder. He looks around the restaurant at all the burly
truckers and announces loudly, “Whichever one of you big bruisers can guess
the weight of this darling parakeet gets to go home with me.”
Silence falls over the truckstop. Then one of the toughest-looking
guys speaks up. “That’s an easy one- five hundred pounds.” The dainty homo
shrieks delightedly, “We have a winner! We have a winner!”
ok i thought about that but i really thought it would be better.

My ex GF(she is 24 and I am 28) broke up with me two months ago, but has been initiating contact with me (90+% of the time) ever since. Trying to find out what I’ve been up to, not getting great answers from me because I am guarded, then turning down potential coffee with me and then rehashing the same cycle every two weeks..

In this latest round though, she admitted to missing my company, indirectly invites me over to her place to visit a kitten I bought for her before we broke up (which I sidestepped), says she cares about me, sends me pictures of herself then pretty much disappears..which has been custom.

Finally had enough of it and changed my phone number so that I would not be tempted or tortured by the prospect of hearing/not hearing from her. Cut her off..but feel like I owe myself an opportunity for complete closure.

Wrote her a letter basically letting her know that it does not feel good to hear from her if all of these strings are attached and that she should meet me at a restaurant at a certain time on a certain date in order to keep me in her life– because these are post-breakup games and all for positioning it seems…for what I don’t know. I guess I need to know what she’s really about and the childish text message games won’t do after a while.

I really do care about this girl and don’t understand or want to try to understand the psychology of what’s going on here…but most ‘experts’ say not to try to push an ex into a situation that would make them uncomfortable….Well, I am pushing…but is it wrong to set the agenda and be decisive as a guy in this situation? I’m just trying to see if words = actions.

Thanks in advance for reading this long thing.

Hi I’m on my mid 20s,pay my own bills,pay my part of my rent,going to school soon,I don’t smoke,I don’t do drugs,I don’t drink, & I work at a nice restaurant as a kitchen quality assurance. I’m a night person & I go to sleep @ 4am & wake up late. I guess that now people this days don’t sleep early anymore & I usually do is using my PC,reading a book, & playing video games. My mom she gets very mad with me for staying up late & she wants me to learn to drive a manual because I’m the only person in my family that doesn’t know how to drive a stick. Does my mom needs to back off or is it bad idea staying up late & not studying to drive a manual stick shift? Thanks. : (

I am 20 years old. I have the opportunity to move up in the restaurant I work in. I have turned down this opportunity before because I wanted to go to school full time. I moved out of my apartment, moved back in with my parents, and cut my work days down to 3 a week, and enrolled in some classes.

I am not a very school oriented person. I hated high school and it is kind of hard for me to buckle down and write reports and all that…but even now that I have fewer bills to pay, I am struggling with money. I am tempted to take this job so I can make a lot of money while attending school. Problem is, I’d be working 50 hours. Five 10 hour work days…I want to get my associates degree out of the way and get done with it fast, but I don’t want a ton of debt either.

What confuses me even more is what I want for my future…
I want to marry my boyfriend and start a family. He is going to a technical college right now and wants to transfer the credits to a local university. He works 40 hours a week (no homework, though). I feel like getting a degree (higher than an associates) may be a waste of time because I want to stay at home with my kids when I have them. So the amount of money spent on a degree I may not use doesn’t make a whole lot of sense…

So here is my question, I guess…
Should I take the 50 hour a week job and continue school…whatever amount of it I can tolerate while working and save up money and avoid debt…
Or continue my part time (while struggling with money) and continue full time school…

The first option makes sense to me…If I get my associates degree while working so much, I will have the degree to fall back on in the future (and to move on to a higher degree in the future) and will have money saved up for my future family and home…

But I don’t want to be miserable either…

What should I do!!??
What about 50 hours a week at work and 6 or 9 credit hours? That’d be 2 or 3 classes. Still awful or doable??

we’ve been getting to know each other over a year already. we are so close, he is all i think about. i love being around him. i really feel so in love with him. ive never really been in a relationship before, but i am 21 and he is 28. we’re coworkers at a restaurant, last night after work, we were talking in my car for like, 2 hours. talking and making out.. in my uniform, it is very conservative and shows like no skin, i was wearing a tshirt & showing some skin.. you could actually see that i did have boobs. he touched them and was like, wow. i was shocked. it was the first time he ever touched me like that. it was only a second, but it felt like my insides jumped inside out for a second.

anyways, he has always been here for me, and we are so close. i really cant imagine myself without him. i know he’s not a virgin, he’s older than me, and more experienced. i am a virgin, and i have no idea wtf i am doing. i am a little, awkward i guess. i feel like i would freak out if anything like that happened.. but at the same time, i feel so in love with him, and I DO want to sleep with him. and actually be intimate with him… How do i overcome this fear? and get rid of my low self confidence? I just want to be with him..

i dont consider myself seeking attention. im just about 17..im actually quite shy and i dont wear revealing clothes.like out of all people…?! i dont have giant boobs or big hips or beautiful blue eyes so it’s like really weird why both men and women. especially white boys not to be racist if so im sorry. and im a black girl myself soo its kind of awkward for me. and its not the usual glance or little stare..likee its hard core. sometimes i smile back..hoping it might help but i guess not..
heres what i look like if you need a visual to my problem: (dont bee too mean.!)

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(sorry its upside down)

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im not trying to give out a stuck up..full of myself attitude..i just really wish i knew why..i hatee this feeling of self consicous or that im weird ugly or something is seriously wrong with me
so is this normal.? it seems that wherever i seem to go…movies. mall. supermarket..especially restaurants. or even as random as when im out with my family.

So, we were in V.A. (I live in N.C.) and we went to this restaurant. Where I was completely starstruck I saw the most amazing guy ever working there. Long story short I was interested and he gave off signs of interest to, but I mean it has been four week and that was the first and last time I saw him. Some how I stumbled upon his profile on facebook and learned he is four years older then me. me=junior high school and him=sophomore college :( Oh well I guess it doesn’t really matter..I mean nothing will ever happen. I just thought it was odd that I saw his profile, but wasn’t even looking for him..In general he is the most amazing person I have ever met, but oh well! What do you think? Dreams never become reality.. :( :( Just the feeling that took over when I saw him..It was amazing. I don’t understand how I could have had those feelings for someone I only saw for a few moments. haha, I kept finding excuses to go past him…OH and also he wasn’t our waitor nor was it his job to wait on anyone. He was the host, but he kept coming to our table to ask if we needed anything and he didn’t do that for anyone else..Sigh, maybe I am just silly I don’t have a facebook I was using a friends to show her the restaurant we went to, to suggest it to her..That and it would be weird to friend someone, who you don’t really know. Just some random guy at a restaurant..I don’t think that would get our relationship to a good start..