especially if you don’t know this person like to be in restaurant or university and a cool guy sitting in front of you , is it happen to be interested in him and in the same time not look at his eyes ?

I met this guy at school who I’m really interested in. I’m 19 and he’s 32. We have a lot of things in common, especially intellectually. We’re both really quiet, but we talk to each other, ironically. He works at a restaurant and is just now going to college because he was in the military for a really long time. I had NO idea how old he was because he looks like he could be in high school. The only things that put me off are that he dresses like a teenager (long hair, several tattoos and piercings) and goes out drinking with his friends a lot. Usually when I think of people in their 30’s, I think of marriage and kids, not bar hopping. I don’t know if I should be nervous to pursue him or not? On his facebook it says that he likes blondes and girls with blue eyes, but that he believes you should judge people on their character.

Ok well this might be kinda long… so I appreciate it if you answer it :). Im a 16 year old dude, and Ive known this girl for a very long time, but weve recently became very close friends. She always texts me/ talks to me on facebook. Very few days go by where we dont talk to each other. Weve even stayed up until like 3 in the morning talking on the phone. Despite that, she acts different in real life and it kinda throws me off. For example, she seems scared to sit directly beside me. Like at lunch, she sits with my friends but she never sits next to me, and I’m like the only guy in our group who is actually friends with her. She also seems scared to let me in her car, yet she will ocassionally get in mine if we go places after school or whatever. She also seems to get jealous when I talk to other girls, and If i walking with her and another girl says hi to me and I say hey back, she’ll say something after she walks off like “shes a bitch” or something. I know it sounds like she likes me.. but she seems to never mind some people being in her car or close to her or something. My friend, who she very shortly met, added her on facebook, and he asked her if she liked me and i read the convo on teamviewer ( which lets me see my friends screen) and she said something like “haha no were just friends.” that kinda shot me down but she continued to text me and stuff like everyday. We have so much in common and she’s done a lot to show she likes me but a lot to show she doesnt. Recently ive been acting mad at her, and just like straight up ignoring her. And she has asked me literally like 20 times that day why I am mad at her. I told her i thought she was two faced because she talks all nice and stuff to people she tells me she doesnt like which i never could do, maybe its a guy thing. She has never really talked about other guys shes into in front of me.. except one time when she told me she was going to start going to go to this restaurant because of a new hot waiter or something and she was like “is that a problem” and she has not really said anything else about it. She also seems very concerned when im mad at her and says stuff like well this is going to bother me all night and stuff. I just dont get why she’s afraid to do things like going riding around or whatever with just me yet she’ll talk to me and invite me to places all the time ( not dateable places, like parties). Ive asked her a few times to go places with me like the movies etc, and she did come once to eat with me one time with a few other friends but she seems scared to do anything else. sometimes it is because of her parents but then again i dont know so. I guess i could write more but I dont really know if it would help. If you get anything from this id really appreciate some advice. No haters please.

Okay so I recently found out my 5 yr long boyfriend cheated on me for an entire year (he broke it off with the other girl a couple months before I found out)…Ive also seen some of his emails to his friends talking about trying to have sex with certain girls and going out to this restaurant/bar where they check out girls. He explained to me that he was messing around because thats how guys talk?

I told him if he is truly committed to me then he cant go anywhere past 8pm because theres really no reason to (he’s 30 he’s had enough partying) …I would have NEVER given him a curfew had he not did what he did.

Is this a reasonable demand?

Basically I am 29, have been enagaged since I was 18 so long realtionship.
My fiance cheated on me last year and has now been relocated because he got fired. He dumped the other girl after a month and he promised we would make it work etc and get married but I have found out he is living with another woman. He is now living in a different country from me and I havent heard from him in a while. I still love him and am missing him so much. He was my life. I have a few pals but they are so wrapped up in their own lives I NEVER see them. I have a good job and am struggling to pay the mortgage on the house my fiance and I were meant to occupy until he buggered off. I am so alone, I have no social life at all and want to get out and about but nobody else works so I dont see any of my pals as they are alwys in. I want to just pack up and move far away. I see my parents every day but i have nobody else except my two cats. I am so miserable because I just want to be able to smile again and there nothing to smile about. My ex is now in a sunny beautiful country with his new woman and I cant stop imagining them on the beach etc. I want to go on holidays but on my own its not so nice. I cant sit in candle lit restaurants by myself and its makes me sad to think hes doing that with her. I want to emigrate and just go to New England and start all over. Anybody know how I can start the ball rolling. I dont mind taking a low paying job, I just have to get out of my country before I just disappear one day. Nobody would even notice me leaving, I just need to start a new life. Please help?? My doctor said he cant believe how strong I am and I should be traumatised by this whole event (especially because of the way he cheated on me.) He wanted to sign me off work for 6 months becuase i was on verge of breakdown and did suffer a miscarriage due to the stress. But I said no, I have got to keep active or I will go insane especially s my so called friends have done nothing to help me. My “best” pal, when she found out we had broken up said to me ” I’m sorry to hear that, on the plus side I am getting married” What kind of a selfish ***** says to their best friend who has just had her heart broken after 10 years a thing like that??? Especially when the guy she is marying is 10 yrs younger and she has known him 1 month. Please help.

he is taking me to a proper restaurant for our first date

all my previous dates ive only been to movies or lunch at maccas lol
i am asian and he’s white..thats why im even more nervous cuz i dont want to make a fool of myself any advice?

and boys or girls..what should i wear? lol

There’s this guy who works as a cashier at this restaurant. I’ve gone in there a few times, and I pass him a lot when I’m walking past the restaurant. Sometimes I see him looking at me and then he looks away. I usually look in when I pass and when he sees me, he looks at me the whole time as I walk by. He’s said “hi” and nodded a few times when we pass on the street. But the other day, I passed him on the street again and he just looked away.

I thought he might be interested, but now I don’t know. Do guys get creeped out by girls who stare??? Is he just weirded out by me? Thanks for your opinions, everyone.

This guy is the most beautiful man on the face of this earth. I’ll hold out because I’m too shy to do anything, and maybe he will do something. . .
Thanks for your opinions, everyone.

This guy is the most beautiful man on the face of this earth. I’ll hold out because I’m too shy to do anything, and maybe he will do something. . .

Ummm… I’m really bad at short versions, so here’s the whole thing,

I think either my friends are changing or I’m changing or something. I feel really…far away. I have been absolute best friends with this girl, Chloe, and her older sister Andrea, since I moved here in Kindergarten and I was having a sleepover with Chloe and we were talking about our circle of friends and how good of friends everyone was in it, like the five of us are really good friends, and then you and me are best friends and she’s best friends with her… you know that kind of stuff. Then idk what exactly she said but she started talking about how good of friends she had been with these two other girls in preschool or something before I moved here. Then she started talking about how we got to be best friends spending every day after school together because our mom’s were best friends.

She made it sound so… like it had nothing to do with us that we were friends, just time. So I asked why do you think we’re best friends now, I mean instead of you and Breanne?(preschool friend) and she just said because we spent so much time together.
But I kind of felt like there were lots of things that made us great best friends. I just remember every once in a while imagining what my life would be like if I didn’t have a best friend to talk to everything about. And I couldn’t. And I couldn’t believe that she thought the only thing that made us close was time. So I said “That’s all? Just time? like you would be Breanne’s best friend if you had spent more time with her?” and she just said “Yeah”

But the thing about Breanne is that Chloe acts so different about her. Sometimes, I like Breanne. She’s easy to talk to when she’s…calm I guess… But most of the time she is really loud and annoying. She’s one of those people who walks into a room and suddenly it’s all about them. She talks really loudly and when she laughs…everyone in the building knows she’s done something “funny”. She doesn’t do anything normally when she’s in that mood. Everything is a big deal and if she doesn’t know someone she’s really rude to them. I guess some people think it’s funny, but I really don’t. So I’ll just be there, not laughing I guess and then people will be like Rory, you are such a fun-kill or whatever and I always just shrug, but most of the time I try to kind of blend into the crowd or something before they can start saying stuff like that.Breanne always just yells really loud “RORY’S NOT HAVING FUN BECAUSE SHE IS EMBARRASSED BY US!!!!!! I just want to tell them that I love having fun, but being rude to total strangers and doing stupid things isn’t my idea of fun. Once I told Chloe that, when it was just us, but she was kind of indifferent about it.

But the worst times are when Breanne makes it all about her by acting depressed. Once we all went to a bonfire and we couldn’t find her, so we told the parents inside and everyone around and we all got out flashlights and were calling her name for over an hour, driving around town, calling anyone that might know, and then finally she just climbed out of a tree right next to the fire in the yard. She could hear us the whole time, but she just wanted us to look for her.

Anyway, Chloe gets a lot like Breanne when she’s around her. For a while they were hardly even friends, but they’ve “been spending a lot of time together lately” or something I guess. Chloe told me this morning that she and her sister Andrea were talking about how I’d been being really boring lately and she thought I loved dancing in the rain. She was talking about the day before, when I had stayed inside when they went out. I told her I do love doing that just not running yelling and screaming out of a restaurant doing it and then shaking my hair out on the people in the table next to us. We were all going to go to Chloe’s house after that too, but I just didn’t go, I just went home without telling anyone. Andrea said it was really unlike me and was something up and I said no, and Chloe didn’t say anything. Probably didn’t even notice I wasn’t there.

They just take their “freedoms” really far I guess. And I’m always just the boring one for not doing it. But dang it, I just don’t want to!

Then we went to see a movie tonight and Chloe kept on saying hey you guys my parents are letting me take ONE person to the party tonight after the movie! When there were almost ten of us there! And she’s always been really tactful about stuff like that, but it’s like she just loses it around Breanne. Then after the movie she just screamed BREANNE WANNA GO TO THE PARTY WITH ME????!!!! and then they started jumping around the lobby bumping into random people and squealing and whatnot…
Anyway, Chloe gets a lot like Breanne when she’s around her. For a while they were hardly even friends, but they’ve “been spending a lot of time together lately” or something I guess. Chloe told me this morning that she and her sister Andrea were talking about how I’d been being really boring lately and she thought I loved dancing in the rain. She was talking about the day before, when I had stayed inside when they went out. I told her I do love doing that just not running yelling and screaming out of a restaurant doing it and then shaking my hair out on the people in the table next to us. We were all going to go to Chloe’s house after that too, but I just didn’t go, I just went home without telling anyone. Andrea said it was really unlike me and was something up and I said no, and Chloe didn’t say anything. Probably didn’t even notice I wasn’t there.
They just take their “freedoms” really far I guess. And I’m always just the boring one for not doing it. But dang it, I just don’t want to!

Then we went to see a movie tonight and Chloe kept on saying hey you guys my parents are letting me take ONE person to the party tonight after the movie! When there were almost ten of us there! And she’s always been really tactful about stuff like that, but it’s like she just loses it around Breanne. Then after the movie she just screamed BREANNE WANNA GO TO THE PARTY WITH ME????!!!! and then they started jumping around the lobby bumping into random people and squealing and whatnot.
But I don’t want to talk to her about it, anymore than I have. I feel like if I do, it will just be like I’m whining. She’s told me before that Breanne was just being mean to me sometimes because she was jealous that Chloe thinks of me as her best friend. But I don’t want to be all like No, I WANT HER, No, IIII want HER!!! about Chloe agh it’s just… ghaaah. It’s frustrating. It makes me not want to spend any time with my friends. Usually I’m the one who plans things and gets everyone together, but lately I haven’t had the heart to. I feel like it’s my own fault I’m isolating myself in this vicious cycle or something.

So, I don’t really know what’s going on. If someone looking at this from the outside has any insight, it would be greatly appreciated.
oops sorry, I added the details twice lol it didn’t all fit the first time so I had to cut and paste…
Crystal - The thing is that I live in this really small town and there are only two friend groups- these girls that think they’re really hot and are always having cat fights and drama and switching between the different guys at my school and my group of friends! Andrea is the mature one that I know, I guess.

I’m an 18 year old girl, 5′2”, and between 100-105 pounds. I eat healthily, usually 4 small meals a day…but it’s sometimes more. I get hungry all the time and can eat whatever I want without gaining weight. I finish foods girls my size (and girls in general) usually don’t, like giant burritos and dinner entrees at restaurants. I eat pizza and mac and cheese at 9pm and am hungry again at 11pm. Am I going to balloon in a few years? Lolol

how much annual income do you expect a guy to have? i mean he obviously needs enough to take you out. please dont act like it doesnt matter because i have seen rships where money is an issue…if a guy doesnt take a woman out to restaurants n bars etc then it EVENTUALLY becomes a problem.

how many times can you have a night in together? lol

so how much would you expect a guy to make at least? and how much would be a good amount?

dont say youre not a gold digger…its not about that. a guy needs to make money to take a girl out here n there..its a FACT.

so whats the number?