I’m not sure how to explain it but i kind of feel like i’ve had little appetite in food, in that i look in the fridge and i have no interest and/or energy to make things (like salad, cereal, sandwiches, etc) and they don’t seem appealing at all, even if i am actually painfully hungry. but, i will definitely over eat on other things, like chips w/ melted cheddar on it, McDonalds, restaurant food, some candies, big bowls of ice cream, etc. But, i usually eat whenever i’m watching like a movie on my computer. I don’t think i ever eat unless I’m “occupied” with a book or movie or something cause it doesn’t feel right to me. And when i watch a show i want to eat something bad, and i feel pretty shi**y if i can’t get food to snack on. I know it’s not healthy and i do definitely over eat and comfort eat, but i just don’t understand if I’m interpreting myself correctly. Can i really not have a appetite and/or interest in food, even when i’m physically hungry, but still really want to eat food at the same time for obviously unhealthy emotional reasons (and i know this cause i have a score of other emotional problems)? isn’t that a paradox thing, to not want and to want at the same time? i’m just not sure i’m understanding myself and if what i’m describing is possible. any advice/input would be greatly appreciated.

I’m not sure how to explain it but i kind of feel like i’ve had little appetite in food, in that i look in the fridge and i have no interest and/or energy to make things (like salad, cereal, sandwiches, etc) and they don’t seem appealing at all, even if i am actually painfully hungry. but, i will definitely over eat on other things, like chips w/ melted cheddar on it, McDonalds, restaurant food, some candies, big bowls of ice cream, etc. But, i usually eat whenever i’m watching like a movie on my computer. I don’t think i ever eat unless I’m “occupied” with a book or movie or something cause it doesn’t feel right to me. And when i watch a show i want to eat something bad, and i feel pretty shi**y if i can’t get food to snack on. I know it’s not healthy and i do definitely over eat and comfort eat, but i just don’t understand if I’m interpreting myself correctly. Can i really not have a appetite and/or interest in food, even when i’m physically hungry, but still really want to eat food at the same time for obviously unhealthy emotional reasons (and i know this cause i have a score of other emotional problems)? isn’t that a paradox thing, to not want and to want at the same time? i’m just not sure i’m understanding myself and if what i’m describing is possible. any advice/input would be greatly appreciated.

Me and my wife are separated, I am 25 and she is 24 with a 2 y/o daughter. We aren’t legally separated though. She moved into her father’s house, who is leaving again to go back out of the country. She pays no rent or bills and she has a job as a waitress at a restaurant. I am a pharmacy cashier at Wal-Mart making like a 1.50 over minimum wage, at the moment. I get paid every two weeks. I give her almost half my paycheck every paycheck, I am not court ordered to or have we gone to court. I also have to pay my rent and bills for my apartment and put groceries in the fridge so I can eat (for me and my daughter). I am not even scraping by. I have to have my parents pay my rent at the moment so I can just pay my bills and put food on the table and diapers and such for my daughter. I am wondering what is the legal child support payment in Alabama? We both have our daughter equally. The reason I am asking is because, like today, I got my check gave her $200 of it, paid $100 on my cable bill, bought minimum amount of groceries as I could (which was $80), and now I only have $45 left of my check and I am suppose to survive off of that for two weeks till my next check, which will be the same cycle again but I’ll be even broker because I will have to also pay my utility bill. I’m looking at it as this, I make around $450 a pay check because I am only part time till they can move me full time. So, I give her $200, that leaves me around $250, plus she gets to keep all her paycheck and tip money and not even have to pay bills or rent where she stays and she splits grocery bill at her house with her uncle who is moving in there and she complains that she can’t survive off what I give her and she needs more. I’m like I’M BASICALLY SPLITTING MY CHECK 50/50 WITH YOU! if you can’t survive, how do you expect me to when I have to actually pay bills and such.

So back to the question, what is the child support payment law in Bama? Like I stated, we have not gone to court and I am not court ordered to pay anything because we haven’t gone to court.
To ‘A Canadian’. I work 32 hours a week, I go to school, and I am about to pick up another job at night to scrape by and you saying I don’t live up to what I should be doing .. You are being ignorant right there, seriously.

I work at a restaurant as a line cook, I’ve been cooking for about 11 years. The other night I worked my first dinner shift at this particular restuarant as I am usually working breakfast. In preparation for the shift I was told by the chef to take the raw burgers out of the fridge and to keep them at room temp, his reasoning is that at room temp they cook faster as well as more evenly than they do straight from the cooler. I disagreed with this method as I know that the bacteria breeds at warmer temperatures especially on raw meat, he told me that it was legal and perfectly ok as long as they are cooked and served within 6 hours. My view on it is that if the bacteria breeds, and then the burger is ordered at a rare or medium rare temp, then the cooking temp does not reach the 145 degree safe zone so to speak. But even if the burger is cooked to a higher temp do you not still run the risk? So really I want to know how is this ok? I’ve never seen it done before and he told me that this is how he’s always done it. I’m also not the only person to disagree with this, I was just the only one to say something.

I’m a guy and I have a female friend. She’s always complaining how she can’t find a man. I’ve overheard her talking to guys and laughing saying, “I’m high maintenance. I can’t even cook. A guy either has to cook or take me out to eat because I’ll never set foot in a kitchen! I totally hate kitchens.” Not surprisingly, the guy didn’t ask her out.

Later I asked her, “Do you always say that to guys?” she said she did and that guys think it’s “cute” and don’t mind that she can’t cook. She says she is too lazy to learn and thinks it’s “grandma-ish” and old fashioned and that women should not have to bother learning these days. Mind you I am NOT the kind of guy who expects a girl to cook for me all the time BUT as a man, I would say most of us men prefer ladies who can cook. Likewise it is a major turn OFF to have a girl who says she is “high maintenance” and who expects to be cooked for and taken out like all the time like a helpless little kid!

I explained to her in a nice way that “maybe” this ‘I can’t cook’ speech she likes to repeat, is scaring men away. Her house is junked up with fast food wrappers and her fridge is full of rotting take out boxes. Add to this the fact that she eats very unhealthy and is overweight. I don’t expect a woman to slave away in a kitchen for me BUT if she can’t even feed herself and doesn’t have basic human survival skills and likes to brag about it, this isn’t sexy! I told her “Maybe if you drop that ‘high maintenance’ line and learn to take better care of your body you would get more dates!” She refuses to believe that her best guy friend is right about this.

So lets hear it guys: Is it “hot” when ladies brag how they can’t even boil water? Is it “cute” when they expect you to cook or buy some expensive restaurant food? Is it funny when a girl brags and laughs about this and says she’ll never learn how? Is it cute when she clearly has a weight problem and doesn’t eat healthy? And finally, do you think she would go on more dates if she STOPPED repeating this to every guy?
FYI…I am a really good cook and every woman I was ever with said this was a huge turn on! I don’t care if women cook for me or not. I can do it myself but it IS huge turn on when a girl can cook for me too!
I have even offered to TEACH her how to cook and she won’t…

Here is the situation: My boyfriend and I are going to be spending a lot of time working for the next month, maybe 2 months. We’re talking like like 80-90 hours a week. But the main thing is that this is also going to involve lots of weird hours, pulling all nighters, working through standard meal times, that kind of thing. This started this week and I’m a little confused how to deal with the seemingly basic problem of feeding myself.

Some info: We live in a European city where eating out regularly is not really an option. It’s very expensive. Also, we will (with the long work hours) be working well after things (restaurants, grocery stores) have already closed. So we can go to the grocery store maybe 1-2 times a week. We’d like to eat at least kind of healthy. I don’t want to feel ashamed if my mother asks me what I had for dinner. Our fridge and freezer (especially freezer) are small. The reason I mention where we live is that when I lived in America this was easy. There are late night restaurants/fast food joints, grocery stores are open late, convenience items are a lot easier to come by (decent frozen meals available even at regular grocery stores), and I had a comparatively massive fridge and freezer. But now I don’t have those options, so I don’t know what to do.

I guess what I am looking for here is a sort of novel solution about the food problem. I mean, we do have to eat. But it literally feels like there is no time, not just for preparation, but for actual purchase of food as well.

What do you do to avoid cooking? Any specific meals that you turn to? Or do you have a good system of avoiding cooking? I thought about freezing meals but our freezer is small and we basically have 1 day off. I don’t want to spend it slaving together in the kitchen to generate food for the rest of the week. I would love ideas on at least somewhat healthy meals that can be made in less than 20 mins without a ton of chopping or shopping. 1 pot-bowl-plate meals also appreciated, since it’s fewer things to wash. We’re not picky eaters.

And if you have some tips on keeping the apartment reasonably tidy you can throw those in as well.

Oh, and I would really appreciate strategies or meals that you’ve actually tried, not just a recipe off the internet!

Woke up at 1:30pm because i was up till about 3:00am. And in order i had..
- Huge bowl of salad with strawberries/apples in it (about 300 calories)
- I figured i needed protein so i had cheese and triscuit crackers (200 calories)
Then i went shopping with friends for about 3 hours and walked ALOT and they decided to go to sonic so i thought it would be rude to not get something so i got
- Small strawberry&banana smoothie which felt very fattening =( (450 calories i read?!?)
After i got home i found some leftover green beans from the fridge which were about (100 calories probably) and for dinner i had..
- about 4 pieces of vegetable pizza which i made myself at home, not at a restaurant or fast food place, and put a tiny amount of cheese (500 calories i predict, the bread was wholewheat and about 280 calories total and the toppings made about 320)
Total i had about 1900 - 2000 calories today, and most of it was protein/carbs/fiber, i had little fat intake today for sure. I usually run alot so i feel pretty crappy right now, any advice or thoughts are welcomed.
i weigh 122 and im 14 years old by the way 5′6 tall

I have a boyfriend, D. D is sweet, caring, everything a girl could ask for. But he lacks initiative. When we first moved in together, I would get so frustrated because I was doing all the cleaning and he didn’t do any, but then I realized all I had to do was ask specific things. He wouldn’t get up and do it on his own, but if I asked, it would be done in a heartbeat.
We both work at a fast food restaurant (how we met actually). I’m looking for a new job, but haven’t found one yet. Also it’s compounded by the difficulty that while I own a car, I am still in the process of getting my license. And I have to keep this job for at least another month because I have loan deferments in the works.
They try to schedule us separate shifts because we’re dating. It’s ridiculous because we’ve always been professional, but whatever. D sleeps late, so I don’t get to see him before I go to work. When I come home…it’s usually a few hours before he gets home. We end up having just 2-3 precious hours together before I have to go to bed on most days. Well business has picked up at work and he’s been staying late a lot to get extra hours because they don’t give him enough. That’s great, but it kind of sucks. I had been having dinner ready when he came home, but there’s no point anymore, because it ends up going to the fridge. In the past week and a half he’s come home on time once. And if I want to see him at all, I have to stay up late and sacrifice my sleep just to see him. And that’s not even really seeing him. He’s either on ebay, watching tv, or playing xbox with me next to him.

He’s mentioned wanting a better job in the past, but he’s never taken the initiative to go out and apply. I’ve been considering asking him to apply for a better job where he gets better pay and I know when he’s going to come home. But at the same time I don’t want to be a crazy controlling girlfriend.

Do I have a right to suggest that he consider applying for another job? Or am I just being selfish and I should just shut-up and deal with it?

why would this stain of a person go online and bash white women who are thin and work jobs like cell phone sales associates, bank tellers, and restaurant servers and expect someone like myself, a white female with a great body who have worked two out of three jobs she listed as “loser” when she is a self proclaimed obese, white women hater? block me? lol your fridge is calling you

My Fiance of 2 months has stayed in my apartment since day 2 of us getting together (just over 6 months ago). He didn’t ‘move in’ straight away, we just haven’t spent more than a couple of nights apart…but by this stage, it can be said he ‘lives’ here. I own my apartment in a very nice area, in a very nice building - I do not have a mortgage - It is in the city (which is convenient for his business), whereas his parents home where he stayed prior is 30 minutes away in the suburbs.

He earns a lot of money (up to $40K some weeks, but at least $5k pw) and I average around $800-$1k pw.

He is very generous: sends me to the spa for facial treatments, massages, occasionally buys me a piece of clothing or a makeup item, buys lavish gifts on my birthday, Christmas and Valentines day, suprises me with limo’s and the best suites in the best hotels, meals at the best restaurants etc. The fact that I cannot afford to be so generous with him has come up a few times.

He has paid for my car to be fixed a few times (around $2k), but when we have arguments he asks for the money back. He has also used my car a fair bit (so I’ve refused to pay him back for what I thought was a ‘gift/favour’). He also paid for my gynecologist appointment the other day that I could not afford (he offered to pay, otherwise I would not have gone) which was $250.

A few months ago, my TV died and my fridge was slowly dying (but still worked) and he replaced these with expensive, big models as a surprise. Every time we fight, he threatens to move out and take both of these with him - I point out my old fridge still worked and ask kindly if I could keep the fridge at least (not to mention, I thought they were both gifts…but I really don’t need a 60inch plasma, so I don’t mind if he takes that).

He pays for 90% of our groceries, usually around $300pw - however I would normally only spend $100 on my groceries when I lived alone. I didn’t cook much when I lived alone, but now he is here I cook him lovely meals every night. He will occasionally make or order in breakfast. I do all the cleaning and his laundry. I am a great housekeeper/homemaker and ‘our’ home is always immaculate and hygienic.

Since living here, has contributed to one bill - an electricity bill of $200.

He does not pay me any rent and I have asked him a few times to contribute $350 pw (not including utilities). My apartment’s rental value is $700 pw on the market.

What are your opinions? Do I demand rent plus half of all the utilities, including the apartment building levies? Or is his generousity with the groceries etc and through gifts and surprises enough?
When responding, please consider that I do not ASK for surprises or his gifts …I am not a high maintenance girl…I would be happy with a bunch of handpicked flowers! And please, put any jealousy aside…I have only explained all of this so I can get mature responses.