Hi everyone, girls and guys!!

First of all, thank you for trying to answer my question, it is a great help and important for me. Really.

Question: My girlfriend (23) and I (23) have been together for just over 1 year now and lately I haven noticed that she has been putting intimacy as the very least and unimportant and irrelevant priority at the bottom of the list.

We never saw each other “too” often, we have been seeing each other 1-2 times a week so I can’t and won’t accept the option of “give each other space” or “we are seeing each other too frequently”, otherwise I could understand.

We see each other only on weekend and rarely in the middle of the week.
Anytime we meet, she avoids coming to a place where sex can happen (her empty house, my place) and always wants to do stuff, and maybe leave it to the end.

And even then, a LOT of the times, when we come to my place from some restaurant or a pub or a movie, she would crash on my bed and fall asleep in a few minutes, completely “disregarding” that something is missing and she knows that I want.

I know that she wants too. But she is behaving like a kid.

She goes to bed at 9 pm, I always want to stay a bit up, watch a show, cuddle, do other things……. we don’t have to go to bed at 9:30 pm on a WEEKEND especially when we only see each other once a week.

It’s very frustrating.
She is pretty loyal, not a “light-headed” or any slutty girl, but when we were supposed to go camping, she mentioned no sex during camping. I laughingly asked “why so?”. She said that she wants to sleep, hang out …and sex can be some other time.

Apparently couples go camping sexless nowadays. It’s a total BS. I don’t want to buy this. I see couples making out in almost every bay in the campground…….except out bay, where my girlfriend passed out at 10 PM !
She says the she feels flattered whenever I want her, but she always puts it last.

One day I came to her place, it was empty, we didn’t see each other for 8 days and we were having one of those playful text messages, pretty clearly stating what we both want when we see each other.
I came into the house, her mother just left for 1.5 hours.

We talked, laughed and when I suggested to go to her room because I didn’t want to make out in the living room ( they have a huge window overlooking the street), she started pulling some weird stuff saying that her mom will be back anytime and that we can do it after the movie at my place (10 hours later).

When we got to my place, I had relatives over, so we couldn’t. She had a great sleep but I could barely fall asleep.
I am very upset about this.
I want to hang out too, and sex is definitely not the 1st priority but it is a need, too.
Humans have 3 needs: Hunger, thirst and sex drive.

End of story.
I don’t need accusations towards the male gender. “Why men always want sex?”
That’s the way it is. If they didn’t want to, you all would not be here.
Men want sex as a need. Couples are in a relationship for a reason and guess what, if there is no sex for a long time - it won’t work. Read some literature for once.

obviously if you are friends with the girl this does not matter then. but i bring this up because i said there was going to be something different. i did not talk to this girl this past week and school ended for me on tuesday. i missed my baseball game on wednesday for an umpiring game, and there was a whole mix up and i had to do the umpire game instead. so, i thought i would see this girl sometime in the past few days before my last couple days to talk to her for *confidence*. i said a few minutes ago to myself, if this girl is online i will talk to her. she is online and i did not say anything. i tried to talk to her in the past and she never replied. even when she talked to me in person, (this was when she started saying hi to me all of a sudden and things like that). basically i never got her number and didnt talk to her for the last week of school. i am shy yes, but should i talk to this girl on facebook right now? or if i do, does it make me look desperate? i had many different feedback about this whole situation with this girl. basically to summarize it all, she started talking to me at first, and then stopped after a while and played it like shes hard to get. i had a few conversations with her and once talked to her after school at a restaurant. spring break came and i finally got the idea to ask her for her number. i never got the chance for real. then a few weeks after spring break came and i never talked to her. then i got the chance to talk to her and she gave me hints she still liked me. i blew many chances to talk to her, but i have a chance to talk to her now, so should i talk to her now through facebook, or like i said, does it make me seem desperate?

My daughter is 21 months old and she frequently has temper tantrums. At home I can deal with it. I just let her scream and throw a fit until she wears herself out or forgets why she’s upset in the first place. She usually stops after a few minutes. But in public most of the time I can’t just ignore her. When we’re out in public she gets so excited, wants to run around and get into stuff, and do stuff that I often can’t allow her to do. At restaurants she refuses to sit still for too long and starts to wiggle and whine and eventually throw a fit. In the grocery store she gets anxious in the basket. When we’re out shopping she wants to run in the opposite direction and gets very upset when I won’t let her. If we’re in an environment where I can let her run around and do what she wants then I let her, but most of the time I can’t. I try to redirect her attention as soon as I see a tantrum boiling up, but she goes from 0 to 60 in no time flat, so it’s hard to catch them. It’s getting to the point where I don’t wanna take her anywhere anymore. I need some mommy advice!

It all started in 2004 when this girl started sending me love letters and and following me around school. She was to shy to talk to me but would write me letters everyday telling me that she liked me and what she felt whenever she would see me. I then one day gave one of her friends my number to give to the girl who would write me love letters and told her that I could only be her friend because I was not interested in a relationship at that point I was too young this was back in 7th grade. The following year I transfered schools and noticed that the girl who would write me letters would be outside my house at times waiting for me to leave for school to only be to shy to talk to me. After a month the friend of the girl who would write me letters called me and ended up asking me why I never gave her friend a chance and when I finished responding she told me that she was on the other line listening to our whole conversation and that day she finally managed to talk to me after all of that time of writing me letters and not being able to talk to me because of how shy she was. Well that day when we ended our conversation on the phone I had a feeling we would become great friends. For almost a year she would always call me and we would talk and our friendship grew and slowly I was starting to have feelings for her because I saw how determined she was. After almost a year of talking on the phone on a daily basis I had a surgery scheduled to get my back wisdom teeth out and the day after she was actually leaving for a few days to New york to visit her aunt so I did not talk to her for a few days. Those days I was in bed and would be listening to piano music and this one night I had a dream of her and when I woke up I cried becuase I felt a deep feeling of love and appreciaton for her. Two days later she called me from new york and we spoke for a few minutes because she called from a pay phone. A few days later on September, 2 of 2005 when we were talking on the phone I asked her if she had noticed how much I had changed since we first began talking a year ago and she said “yes,” and then I responded it’s becuase I am falling for you. That day was the day our relationship started but it wasn’t until October, 23 of 2005 that I saw her because her parents were very strict and didn’t want her to be going out with a guy. I saw her that day becuase she called my cell from a pay phone and we were making a plan on how I would see her without her parents finding out and while we were talking I was in the car with my family going to a restaurant and happened to drive right by the pay phone that she was on so we decided to meet later on that day. That day I will never foget because we were both so nervous because we hadn’t seen each other in a very long time since all of our communication was through the phone. The next time I saw her was two days later and the third time I saw her, her parents found out and got very upset because they thought I was the typical guy who just wanted to use her wich was not true at all. That’s when the problems started because her parents were trying to seperate us and she ended up running away many times and her parents thought I was giving her these bad ideas and that I was a bad influence. To make it short after a year and three months she broke up with me a few days before christmas of 2006. I was so miserable that I truly just wanted to die and I would cry to her and beg for her to reconsider her decision and she just said it was best for both of us to be broken up. I would cry all night and even though we were broken up we would still talk and see each other quite often wich made it even harder on me. She would say that she loved me but that she broke up so that I would no longer suffer. I couldn’t take it and seeked help and was hospitalized for depression for a week. We were on and of all of 2007 and 2008. Finally in 2009 and we were about to get back together because we were looking for a way to work things out and I went to see her in my car that I had just bought and she admitted to me that she loved me but was meeting another guy at her job and that she was tired of being on and off with me and was confused. I was crushed and to make things worse a week later the day before my birthday on october I was driving and I saw her walkiing with the guy she liked and he seemed like a jerk so I came out of the car and he ran off and she became very upset with me and cursed me out and after that day we had no contact for over six months and I was miserable and couldn’t focus in my first year at college and my grades went down. Just three months ago we spoke again and she told me that she moved and now also had a car and just a month ago she called me at 1am and told me she wanted to see me and I did and when we were together I hugged her and we kissed and I was happy and thought this would maybe lead to us getting back together. Then just last week I saw
again and this time it was because she called my at 3am to see her but this time she was completely indifferent when she saw almost as if she didn’t want to see me. Then all week we texted until yesterday when I texted her how are you and she responded dont’t ever text me again and I asked why and she said leave me alone. Today after a long day at work wich felt like it would never end because of how down and sad Iwas I texted her again asking her what did I do for you to not want to talk to me again and she just responded fuck you and I felt so miserable at that moment and all I want is to be able to get on her good side again because I truly love her and she is the only person I have ever cared about so much and the only person that I have ever cried over. Can any one please give me any advice on how I can get her to reconsider me again. And please don’t tell me forget her because if it were so easy I would have done it to ge this suffering over with.
Sorry my original question was cut short so I added that second part wich didn’t make as much sense as the original version.
Now all I have left are the distant memories of talking on the phone to her before we actually started going out and all of those promises she made to me that are now broken and all of the special moments we shared. I truly don’t understand why she is like that. One moment she wants to see me and talk to me and then all of a sudden she just ignores me and now that I politely asked her why is she doing this to me she said fuck you I don’t care about you and keep dreaming of the past to me your worthless. I didn’t expect this because there was no reason for her to be upset. I really need some advice on how I could get back with her because I truly care about her and want her to realize that she would be throwing away such a special relationship.

My husband was stressed and in a horrible mood today after work. One of the systems crashed and he had to fix it with one of his lazy co-workers. He ended up doing the whole job, etc. etc. etc.

Basically, he comes home and demands his dinner. I did not prepare his dinner because I thought we were going to eat out at this newly opened Italian restaurant that my sister had recommended. I told him that and he threw a huge tantrum about how far the Italian restaurant was from our city and how hungry he was, etc. etc. etc. and how he couldn’t wait that long to drive to an Italian restaurant in another city.

First off, I don’t even like Italian food! I would rather go get some Chinese food, but I purposely planned on going to the Italian restaurant just for him! I also told him that and he said something about how I should have called him at work to ask.

I replied back with “Why do I need YOUR permission on where to go eat?” He was stressed out and I was getting a bit upset. He said “Because my paycheck pays the rent and the bills! I have a real job. I’m not some stupid workathome designer.”

I don’t understand why he would purposely hurt me like that. I told him to apologize because the words stung and his response was “Stop being so sensitive. It’s annoying.”

I responded by bursting into tears, running upstairs, and locking the door. I’m just so frustrated and I try not to be so sensitive but it’s in my blood. Both my mother and father are very sensitive too and that was how I was raised. I try not to cry but sometimes the things that he says to me hurt.

He did apologize a few minutes after and told me how “deeply sorry” he was. I ignored him, obviously. He can’t possibly expect me to forget what he said, even if it was the truth. He knows just as much as I do that I try to do whatever I can to bring in spending cash that we can use. I do make an effort.

My son is 5. I am having lots of trouble getting him to listen to anything I say. If I am on the phone, he will just make loud jibberish baby talk to be disruptive. If I tell him to be quiet for a few minutes while mommy is on the phone, he will get louder. Today we went to Subway and he was kicking the potato chip bags. When I try to get him to sit down, he runs..He wont come to me. I am not going to run chase him in a restaurant. This is becoming a safety thing…with him running away and not staying with me. There has got to be a good way to teach him to stay with me, and to obey me when I have to be on the phone.

Teenagers, what is your preferred living environment? Here are some options to choose from:

1) Suburban (Same type of housing, same type of chain stores, have to drive to get anywhere)
2) Countryside (Have to drive long distances to get to stores, restaurants, but plenty of natural forests)
3) Urban (City environment, you can ride the bus/subway, walk, or bicycle to restaurants/cafes, stores, museums, libraries, clubs, city parks, supermarkets, etc. There are tons of a things to do a few minutes from your home)

I’m curious to know. I’m a teenager myself, and although I love the countryside, I hope to live in an urban environment in the future. Suburbs are inefficient in my opinion (I live in one) and although I appreciate the general safety, life is monotonous. I have to drive to get anywhere (people don’t know how to drive in my suburb so it’s annoying to drive), I can’t get away from my house without having to drive (no one walks around in a typical suburb and there are no parks or sidewalks), the only stores/restaurants are chains like Wal Mart and Applebee’s, and it’s hard to meet random people (you can join many different groups/clubs in urban cities like New York, Boston, SF that cater to any of your interests).

Like I said, I’m not ragging on suburbs, I appreciate some of their aspects… however I’d much rather live in an urban environment — judging from past month long visits to New York where I have cousins.

First, some background: She is a stunning 27-year-old Aquarius with a killer body. Has a masters degree, and works as a teacher. Typical hottie thru college (cheerleader, sorority, very popular), so she has a fairly enlarged ego. (For the record im leo)

Anyway, I started dating her about a month ago. First date was just meeting for coffee. I kept the conversation light, funny, and basically acted like I didn’t care if this worked out or not.

Called for the second date, had lunch, and took her skating. We kissed a little, and I could have spent more of the evening with her, but I had another date that evening, so I cute it short. Called several days later asked for the 3rd date.

One day before the date she called to cancel (her child was sick). Ok, tough one to handle, I have a son, so I do understand, but no one likes canceled plans, so in true Leo fashion, I waited for her to make the next move.

She called twice in the next week, and I talked for a few minutes, but she always “wink wink” caught me just as I was on my way to do something incredibly fun.

She finally asked why I hadn’t asked her out again… and my reply was “you broke a date with me, it’s your turn to make it up.” She made plans and picked me up.

I stood at the door of her car and ’cleared my throat,’ so she walked around and opened the door. Took me to a nice restaurant, had a bottle of wine waiting, and had a dozen roses delivered to the table for me.

That evening we were getting a little hot in her car, when she asked me to come in. I told her “No, I am not that easy and require way more work!” Which drove her nuts. (Personally, I go for laying long-term groundwork rather than easy scores. I prefer a steady fix.)

Now, a week later I got the infamous LJBF’s (Let’s just be friends). What she said was she really enjoyed my friendship and wanted to be around me, but just as friends. She felt it was too soon after her divorce to feel so strongly about someone, etc. And her specific question was “Can we be friends?”

Ladies, could you please explain to me what she actually means by this? Thanks.

I went into the restaurant expecting good food and some decent service. What I got was a lesson that not all people in the food service are capable of acting hospitable to their patrons. I had a gathering of family and friends over, but the hostess directed us to two separate tables. We then took it to ourselves and decided to move one table to another so that we wouldn’t get separated. A waitress comes over and says that its restaurant policy to not move the tables. At this point a member in my group protested this and before we know it, a heated rift developed between the waitress and the person of my group. A separate episode followed where my brother wandered off to another table. My brother has severe mental retardation and cannot help controlling his impulses. As soon as he sat down on the table, I get confronted by two employees asking my brother to leave and of course, I’ve tried to get him off but he wouldn’t budge. I explained to them the situation soon after the attempt and they agreed to let him stay. I heard them laughing in background when I tried to feed my brother. A few minutes later, this waitress with a bad attitude screams at me in Cantonese asking why I was sitting there with my brother. I explained to her like the other employees….I just arrrrgggh lost my temper. I can’t stand service like this where the employees are so confrontational and act like they know better than you

It had old people in it and it was a musical think. At one part an old man is singing at an outside restaurant how he is glad he is not young anymore.

Sorry it is so vague but I only saw a few minutes of it.
That is it!!! Thank you so much!