I am in school, and while I am working on my degree I have been serving. First of all, I can not express how much I hate my job. Right now I am stuck, the hours line up with when I can find childcare and I make enough money to pay the bills. One day though, I am going to lose it. I hate people looking down on me like I am nothing, when half of them can’t even understand a simple menu, I hate the owner of the restaurant as a does not care the slightest about anyone and uses threats to try to get us to do what he wants. He is always acting like he is better then everyone but thinks everyone loves him, while we all dream of how to ruin him. I hate the fact that I have to depend on some ignorant person to tip me properly. Sorry I have to vent…really.

1. I have bills to pay to, and this is my only source of income. If you can not afford 20% then don’t come out. I have been head server at several restaurants and my service is often times worth more then 20% so you insulting my pockets and I. By leaving me 10% you are taking away from my child also. If everyone does this we would have no place to live.

2. Do not wave me down or snap you fingers. I am a person too. Chances are I was just at you table a few minutes ago, and I always come back.

3. Every server only gets a certain amount of tables a night. If your full, you don’t get anymore until the others leave, so stop sitting in my section “catching up” because again, I am losing money…

Really, I will be getting out of this profession ASAP. This job has really made me hate people. I am such a happy person until I step foot into my place of employment.

So my question is…why are people rude and don’t get it? I need to pay my bills just like you. If you take up my table or stiff me, I don’t get paid.

Thank you for listening and your responses!

Hi! I’m 28, 5′10, 170 lbs, light brown, light green eyes, pretty face (well i like it very much!), clean!
I like movies, tell a girl nice compliments, go out to nice restaurants, have a drink alone with her talking and listening to any stories…laughing! …Look into her eyes under the stars and tell her how much it is pretty to see all these stars shinning into her eyes! …and finnaly get asleep with her by my side under all these stars! Really, you did’nt see me, but i’m not bad looking! Would you date me?!

Hey, and it’s my birthday in a few minutes!

Okay, so theres this guy that works at this restaurant, and he’s really cute. Would it be okay to write my name on a piece of paper and just give it to him? I have this urge to do it, and I NEVER do anything crazy, I always do things the safe way. And what else would I write on it if I did? Name? I am 16 by the way.

Guys, would you be flattered? Or creeped out?
Hes maybe 16-18.

But what if I talked to him for a few minutes before? And he seemed nice?

I will be driving from Washington, DC to Chicago with my dog next month. The last time we made this trip it was January and the weather was cool enough that he could wait in the car while at rest stops and restaurants. With our horribly hot summer, I am concerned about leaving him in the car for even just a few minutes while I take a bathroom break. I am driving by myself — any ideas on how to keep my dog safe?

I was at a Chinese restaurant with my two friends. We ate, and then my friends got upset, so went outside to talk. Throughout the next 15 minutes, they kept harassing me to pay as if I couldn’t sit there any longer. They started yelling at me and threatening me because they claimed I wasn’t going to pay. I tried to explain that I didn’t know where they were, and they had the wallet, so I had to wait for them. They started bugging me and asking me if I could just pay, and seemed shocked and angry that I didn’t have any money. They were angrily talking to each other in Chinese. Finally, my friends came back in, and the woman starts yelling at them to pay. At this, my friends started yelling at the woman and arguing with her, and told her to shut the hell up and other rude comments. Finally, with much heated argument, we payed and left. I was trying to restore calm and order. I don’t like to see people fight because I’m sensitive, so I was apologetic.
No, I was still there, my friends had just left for a few minutes.
I was still at the table the whole time, it was only my friends who had left.

i’ve been attending a gym for three years now, about three times a week, and often for two hours or more. when i got measured, i lost nothing more than a millimeter in any area and as of weight, i’ve actually gained since being there. there’s been no point since i’ve been attending that i actually have lost weight and i absolutely kill myself while there, so it doesn’t make sense to me. i’ve also began other healthy habits like eating far more small meals within the day, switched from 70 calorie a glass green tea to zero calorie diet snapple, drinking the 8 cups of water a day deal, and various little things like that. i still, however, eat one larger meal a day, often from a restaurant. i was under the assumption that fixing a variety of issues might not give me amazing results, but would at least provide something. i’m technically of “average” weight, but would like to look more healthy and get rid of anything that jiggles. there is absolutely weight to be lost without just acting self conscious. i go to the gym in sweatpants and a fuzzy hoodie, as i realized that produces the most sweat. my workout currently is to spend an hour on the elliptical. i often alter what i do slightly as to mix it up as well. currently, i go at a fair speed for 20 minutes, then the same, but backwards for another 10. for the next 10 minutes i do 3 minutes at an increased resistance and then lower it for the next two. increase for another 2 minutes, and lower for 3 minutes. i repeat that again for another 10 minutes. for the last 10 minutes, i often do whatever i can still handle from that point, which is often a minute at an extremely increased resistance, a few minutes backwards, going as quick as i can, anything in that realm. i then use 7 machines to target my stomach (and sides) and thighs (and legs.) then go in the dry steam room and stretch. if i have the energy to use anything else, like a stationary bike or a treadmill, i go on that for a bit prior to going into the steam room. i have a few personal training sessions available to me that i never used with my initial membership, but i’d rather be able to do this on my own, so that was more a last resort, as their advice hasn’t helped thus far. is there anything perhaps i’m doing wrong or something i could improve upon? (not willing to change anything major in my diet or day-to-day life, as i’ve changed enough and not seen results.) i constantly attempt to build up reps, resistance, change things around. nothing quite seems to work. any advice or help would be appreciated.

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Here’s the background:

My parents are both over 70 years old and retired. They have no money, so they live with me in a house that I bought. My parents are traditional chinese, and expect kids to care for them when they are old. My parents do not speak English, thus increasing their dependency on my brother and I.

I am 28 years old. I’m in the second year of starting and running my own software business. Work takes up almost all of my time. I’m at the point in a person’s life where he is very ambitious and devotes all his time to his career.

Here’s the problem:
My parents keep complaining that my brother and I do not pay enough attention to them. My parents say we don’t care about them. Any time they ask me or my brother to do something, we don’t treat it as a priority. So they get upset when we lose patience teaching them how to turn off a cell phone for the 20th time, or why we still haven’t figured out some insurance thing for them, or why we still haven’t fixed the kitchen sink. Well, that’s because we actually do have more important things to do.

Additionally, what takes most people 3 seconds to explain takes my parents 5 minutes to explain. My parents, like the old people stereotype, talk forever and talk in circles. They never get to the point and they obfuscate stories with vague irrelevant details. My emails and phone messages are packed with urgent business calls, so I don’t have time to waste on incoherent ramblings.

As a child, my parents worked really hard in a restaurant. Everytime I wanted to talk to my parents, they would say, “can’t you see we’re busy? We’re already 3 months behind in rent. We need to put food on the table.” They worked non-stop for 10 years without ever taking a day off. We only got to talk to them for a few minutes during breakfast. I worshipped their ability to perservere, so it didn’t bother me that they never had time to spend with my brother and I.

Now the tables have turned. My brother and I are following in the footsteps of my parents by working non-stop. My parents are complain that we don’t care about them, even though we’re doing for them everything they did for us: ie. provide shelter and food.

But clearly, to them, that isn’t enough. And for my brother and I, we’re losing patience trying to explain to them for the 100th time how to turn on the TV.

How should we deal with this situation?

**People tell us the cliche that old people aren’t around much longer, and we should value our remaining time with them. This notion doesn’t resonate with me. I have too much work to care about cheesy cliches like that. What should I do to minimize frustrations dealing with old parents? In our culture, sending them to an old folks home is the most dishonourable thing to do.
Additionally, they are in heavy loads of debt which my brother and I are working to pay off on their behalf. It would be nice if they stopped complaining about how we’re not cleaning up their mess fast enough.

Hi everyone, girls and guys!!

First of all, thank you for trying to answer my question, it is a great help and important for me. Really.

Question: My girlfriend (23) and I (23) have been together for just over 1 year now and lately I haven noticed that she has been putting intimacy as the very least and unimportant and irrelevant priority at the bottom of the list.

We never saw each other “too” often, we have been seeing each other 1-2 times a week so I can’t and won’t accept the option of “give each other space” or “we are seeing each other too frequently”, otherwise I could understand.

We see each other only on weekend and rarely in the middle of the week.
Anytime we meet, she avoids coming to a place where sex can happen (her empty house, my place) and always wants to do stuff, and maybe leave it to the end.

And even then, a LOT of the times, when we come to my place from some restaurant or a pub or a movie, she would crash on my bed and fall asleep in a few minutes, completely “disregarding” that something is missing and she knows that I want.

I know that she wants too. But she is behaving like a kid.

She goes to bed at 9 pm, I always want to stay a bit up, watch a show, cuddle, do other things……. we don’t have to go to bed at 9:30 pm on a WEEKEND especially when we only see each other once a week.

It’s very frustrating.
She is pretty loyal, not a “light-headed” or any slutty girl, but when we were supposed to go camping, she mentioned no sex during camping. I laughingly asked “why so?”. She said that she wants to sleep, hang out …and sex can be some other time.

Apparently couples go camping sexless nowadays. It’s a total BS. I don’t want to buy this. I see couples making out in almost every bay in the campground…….except out bay, where my girlfriend passed out at 10 PM !
She says the she feels flattered whenever I want her, but she always puts it last.

One day I came to her place, it was empty, we didn’t see each other for 8 days and we were having one of those playful text messages, pretty clearly stating what we both want when we see each other.
I came into the house, her mother just left for 1.5 hours.

We talked, laughed and when I suggested to go to her room because I didn’t want to make out in the living room ( they have a huge window overlooking the street), she started pulling some weird stuff saying that her mom will be back anytime and that we can do it after the movie at my place (10 hours later).

When we got to my place, I had relatives over, so we couldn’t. She had a great sleep but I could barely fall asleep.
I am very upset about this.
I want to hang out too, and sex is definitely not the 1st priority but it is a need, too.
Humans have 3 needs: Hunger, thirst and sex drive.

End of story.
I don’t need accusations towards the male gender. “Why men always want sex?”
That’s the way it is. If they didn’t want to, you all would not be here.
Men want sex as a need. Couples are in a relationship for a reason and guess what, if there is no sex for a long time - it won’t work. Read some literature for once.

obviously if you are friends with the girl this does not matter then. but i bring this up because i said there was going to be something different. i did not talk to this girl this past week and school ended for me on tuesday. i missed my baseball game on wednesday for an umpiring game, and there was a whole mix up and i had to do the umpire game instead. so, i thought i would see this girl sometime in the past few days before my last couple days to talk to her for *confidence*. i said a few minutes ago to myself, if this girl is online i will talk to her. she is online and i did not say anything. i tried to talk to her in the past and she never replied. even when she talked to me in person, (this was when she started saying hi to me all of a sudden and things like that). basically i never got her number and didnt talk to her for the last week of school. i am shy yes, but should i talk to this girl on facebook right now? or if i do, does it make me look desperate? i had many different feedback about this whole situation with this girl. basically to summarize it all, she started talking to me at first, and then stopped after a while and played it like shes hard to get. i had a few conversations with her and once talked to her after school at a restaurant. spring break came and i finally got the idea to ask her for her number. i never got the chance for real. then a few weeks after spring break came and i never talked to her. then i got the chance to talk to her and she gave me hints she still liked me. i blew many chances to talk to her, but i have a chance to talk to her now, so should i talk to her now through facebook, or like i said, does it make me seem desperate?