Last week—-There is a man i met in meeting with some other colleagues. I am trainee so i didnt say a word. My other colleagues were talking and i was silent. I had strong attraction towards him and i couldnt take my eyes of him. Even tho i wasnt talking, he was making some eye contact with me more than others.

Yesterday i went alone to his office, i could send him email but i wanted to see him, so i kinda changed my voice to more softer and i was like excuse me the meeting is cancelled and he was like ok, i told him that i wont attend the meeting and he said okay, i then continued to say i sent you thank you email as well and he said whats your name? i told him my name. I was bit nervous because i knew i look extremely dumb because instead of going to him i could give him a buzz and i asked him can i have your card. He said yes and gave me and i said i will let you know about the meeting and he said beautiful and i left.

Do you think he is attracted to me in anyway? i have strong attraction towards him and he is around 56+ i guess and i am 25.

And how can i attract him if so? he works in same company i work as well.
How can I be abvious to him that i have attraction towards him?

Yesterday— I was talking to colleague and i saw him walking towards the exit. So he came passed in front of me and i said hello and smiled and he just nod his head.

What do u think of this man? and how can i attract him? And do u think in any way he is attracted to me?

p.s. i have resigned from the company so i have 9 days.

Yesterday: I had some papers which he cannot help but for the heck of it i went to his office and said i need to meet you. He looked at me annoyed as he was busy and said come after 30 minutes.

I went back after 30 minutes and he looked at me and said again oh pls come again after 30 min because i am busy. I got annoyed and said okay. I went after 30 min and he told me to sit down.

I gave him the paper and asked if he could help with his products. He said no i cannot because i deal with so and so and he looked annoyed. I then said okay can u pls tell me what you deal with exactly because i am trainee. He said ok. i will send u thru email.

I was like ok how long u r here? he said few years. He asked me for my age? I was like i am 25. He asked me if i have social friends outside work and what dress do i usually wear? I was like it depends. He went on to ask do u often meet your friends etc? i asked him if he lives with his family( considering he is married bcoz there is ring ).

He said no i live alone. He asked me the places i like to go?I tried my best to keep the conversation going so i asked him so many questions about his work and his career experiance(which honestly means nothing but i just wanted to talk more). I then told him i resigned and i will leave the company. He asked which place i was going? i told him i am going to do my master in another city. He said ok i usually come to that city so can i meet you? i was like of course. He said leave your phone number of that other city before u leave.

We talked about religion,politics, financial crisis etc.. and i asked him do u have phone number? he gave me his business card and said my mobile is there. He then asked me to give my mobile number to him which i did. Believe it or not we were talking for one hour and 30 minutes and time passed so quick. After i left i sent him text saying nice to meet you. Which he replied thank you rachel.

Today: I sent him email in the company email saying “morning how are you? there is good restaurant i eat my lunch usually, below is the no. if you are interested”.

He replied back after one hour saying “thank you rachel, I will try.

Thats all.

Now my question, do you think he is interested? and how can i continue from here? pls help
p.s. i dont want to look desperate to him as well but i still wanna attract him

I asked this girl to hangout and get coffee and catch up because we hadn’t seen each other in years. She was engaged to another guy at the time and I was just wanting to hang out with her because she is a really cool girl

Well her and her fiance broke up two weeks ago (they had been together for years.) The next time I talk to her I ask her how she’s doing. She tells me her and the guy had broke up, and she’s not OK right now but hopefully she will be. The next time after that we are talking and at the end of the conversation she asks me to let her know when I want to “meet.” I hadn’t suggested a meeting time because I didn’t really want to be seen as her “girlfriend shoulder to cry on” type. It was a few weeks after their breakup and I asked her over the phone if she wanted to meet for coffee. She said yes. We met at the shop. She hugged me and I told her she looked great and she said I did too. I open doors and pull out chairs doing the gentlemen thing cause that’s what I do. She paid for her order and didn’t seem to expect me to pay. She had it paid for before I had the chance to offer to pay. We talk and the conversation goes well. She asks questions about me I ask a lot about her. We laugh and are having a good time. At one point in the evening I touch her arm admiring her bracelet. So the touch barrier is broken for sure, her body language is telling me she is interested (although it may just be interest in the conversation at the time.) She’s leaning forward, lots of eye contact, her foot pointed at me and she doesn’t keep much distance between us. During the conversation she does mention a guy she thinks is hot (although he is her dentist and he is married and I had asked her where she goes to the dentist at because I needed to find a new one.) She also mentioned the breakup and stated that she missed “having someone to talk to” and her ex’s cooking because she hated to cook. (After I had mentioned I liked to cook and was good at it!) She said “I guess I shouldn’t be talking about other guys….” and kind of trailed off. I didn’t react and just kind of ignored it because I’m not really the jealous type. I know if a girl is talking about other guys that she thinks are hot that may be a bad sign… but I don’t know what she was doing there for sure. I think she is trying to figure out if I like her by seeing if I react? Or she may be trying to hint that she isn’t interested in me? We hugged and left 2 hours later. She told me she had fun and she hinted at wanting to do something again. I have known this girl and liked her for years but the whole time I knew her she was dating and then engaged to her now ex. He was an immature muscle bound guy. I think she wasn’t ready for marriage is why they broke up. I have never made any move or made it obvious that I liked her and still haven’t. She talks to me whenever I am online on IM. I make sure to appear busy and I don’t act like a friend so much (as in I’m busy talking to other people too and not always available.) I plan on either asking her to meet again at a restaurant for a meal, or asking her on a date to a movie, but I don’t know if she would be ready yet to go on a date even if she was interested in me. She’s a really friendly social person, but she doesn’t talk to a lot of guys and flirt with a lot of guys.

I appreciate any insight I can get into the female mind and I can handle it if it doesn’t sound like she is interested in me I just want to have a better idea. Also if I am honest I would consider her to be out of my league, but I try not to judge people by appearances. She is like a 8 and I am a 6 at my very best. Her ex, myself, and the guy she talked about being hot are all “bigger” guys so I may just be her type. Around her I am confident, a little cocky but not much, and I tease and flirt with her a lot, so I doubt she thinks I just want to be friends. Thanks for any help!!
Thanks for the great answers so far! God I love the internet. They were engaged for three years, it has been a little over two weeks since they broke up now. I think she broke up with him because she wasn’t ready for marriage. I will most likely keep hanging with her occasionally and I will take things slow I think. As long as I am hanging out with other friends and looking at other girls I see nothing wrong with the situation. I will try and help her figure out what went wrong as one person suggested. I will still be flirtatious with her but no asking her on a date until she shows some more signs of being interested in taking things in that direction. Keep those answers coming if you have any other suggestions or interpretation! You have no idea how much this helps me think this out.

I have about 3 questions on SAD. I would be so relieved if any of you who know what you’re talking about can answer these. Ok, number one. I believe I have Social Anxiety. I can’t know for sure until I see a psychiatrist, but I wanted to know if I seem like someone who might have it. My symptoms are…I feel scared to eat infront of people, sometimes I can’t make eye contact, I hate being the center of attention, I get beyond and extremely scared when public speaking (like in front of class), I can’t do things I want because I’m too afraid of being watched or criticized. Also, it’s weird, but I can be myself in videos I’m sending to friends, but let’s say if we were video chatting in real life where we can both see eachother, I would refuse. I make up excuses to go places with family, or video chat. I couldn’t even go to McDonalds in by myself to get something while my Mom was waiting for me. At school, every day, I usually blush a lot, and sweat due to my embarassment. I don’t even want to be seen in classrooms. I feel like I can’t make eye contact with teachers, and meeting new people can be scary for me. And I tend to act weird around some people I know sometime. And my whole Dad’s side of the family say I never show up to anything or talk, but I don’t think they understand. And when I’m in public, I feel like I’m walking funny. Recently, I was at a restaurant, and I thought people were staring at me the whole time, and looking at me. I had to sit a certain way to avoid me almost being able to not eat at all. And I feel like changing is scary..I want to do some different things, but I JUST CAN’T. And at the hair salon place, I could barely even talk to the hair dresser. I couldn’t look in myself in the salon mirror because I’m afraid she would see me. And usually if I talk to someone one-on one (like they know I’m talking to them), I usually get an attitude and start acting as if I don’t want to talk to them (this is for adults) But at school, I basically feel like everyone is just judging me. And now making friends is sort of hard for me. So it’s good that I already have my tight group of friends. At the grocery store, I ask my mom to come to certain aisles with me so I won’t be watched or alone around people. Also, I can’t even answer the phone sometimes when it rings. Do I sound like someone with SAD? Question number two: What are the best methods for treating Social Anxiety? Question number three: If I were to take medicine for it, how would i feel different, and in what ways would I act around people in public..and just how would I be..how would i feel in social situations? Getting an answer would be thrilling to me.

Ok so here is the ‘brief’ situation…

-I met this really cute manager of a restaurant 2 months ago. He is about 32. Went there a couple of times, fourth time he came over to me, we flirted, eye contact, he made the effort to get to know me a little better…so, islipped him my number (without him asking for it).
-He calls me and texts me as soon as I leave. I miss his call, and his text says that he found my number and that I forgot my notebook , I reply a couple of hours later, saying thanks for finding my things.
-I then text him a week later, saying i’ve been quite busy and will try to come pick it up the next day. he responds saying sure anytime.
-I leave town… we were barely talking, so i didn’t tell him.
-i get back a month later, go pick up my notebook and run into him. he seems happy to see me, asks where i’ve been but doesn’t initiate anything definite.
-i am very confused for 2 weeks and try to let it go, but i can’t . so i decide to just text him 4 days ago asking him how he is etc.. No response yet

So I know the obvious answer is… he lost interest, the moments gone etc and hes just not interested. But for some reason I really really want him., maybe its the whole can’t have so i want him thing…

please be brutally honest with me if you have to.

Ok So I asked this before but can’t seem to come to a solution. 10pts A restaurant manager was flirting me this one time, (and it was definitely more flirtatious then the normal friendliness of managers) and I had already seen him a couple of times, so the fourth time there was flirting, eye contact etc and he made it a point to get to know me a bit better…SO, I slipped him my number voluntarily.

He calls me and texts me immediately and informs you that I forgot something there. I basically reply saying thanks for finding it . Then, I texted him a week later saying I was sorry and was busy, would try to come the next day. And he said, sure anytime, its safe. I didn’t have time to pick it up so I only went back after a month as I had left town soon after I gave him my #.

I picked it up when I got back though, he was happy to see me, made conversation but didn’t really initiate anything definite. He just gave me a nice goodbye and he said I will see you soon..

–So what happened.. Did I seem desperate? Did he lose interest? Is all hope gone? ? If not, should I text him or just go back to the restaurant.

Ok So I asked this before but can’t seem to come to a solution. 10pts A restaurant manager was flirting me this one time, (and it was definitely more flirtatious then the normal friendliness of managers) and I had already seen him a couple of times, so the fourth time there was flirting, eye contact etc and he made it a point to get to know me a bit better…SO, I slipped him my number voluntarily.

He calls me and texts me immediately and informs you that I forgot something there. I basically reply saying thanks. Then, I texted him a week later saying I was sorry and was busy, would try to come the next day. And he said, sure anytime, its safe. I didn’t have time to pick it up so I only went back after a month as I had left town soon after I gave him my #.

I picked it up when I got back though, he was happy to see me, made conversation but didn’t really initiate anything definite. He just gave me a nice goodbye and he said I will see you soon..

–So what happened.. Did I seem desperate? Did he lose interest? Is all hope gone? ? If not, should I text him or just go back to the restaurant.

Now I have not asked out a girl in 6 years because I was in a long term relationship that ended last November.

I am in my late 20s now and I am not a kid any more so I am not sure what qualifies as flirting at my age.

Well here is how it went. A group of us went out after work to a Sushi restaurant and the girl I have an interest in was sitting next to me, So I engaged with a conversation with her using allot of eye contact. Well as we continued to eat her purse strap hit me about 3 or 4 times on my leg So I said jokingly “Hay can you please stop hitting me with your purse strap” So she started to purposely hit me with her purse strap, in a playful or possibly flirty kind of way.

I don’t know if that was flirting or not so will some one answer that for me? Also this coming Thursday I am going to ask her out for Ice cream what do you think of my chances she will say yes?

She tries to talk to me a lot and she always holds eye contact. She helps me no matter what at work. She blinks a lot around me. She always said we should try that when i mention a new restaurant opening in our city. But she had a bf.

another coworker said she has a crush on you thats how we act when we love someone…..because shes told me to leave her alone before because i was annoying or something? i asked her for the reason and she never gave me one. then she always comes back to me after telling me that. the coworker also told us to use protection when we have sex and the girl i like said we will use lots of protection….. i asked her to go for a walk after work one night and she said yes but then had to babysit. She has turned me down 3 or 4 times for walks since then.

One day she kept walking near me and stopping and staring at me when i wasnt paying attention to her. And the last time we worked together she said im tired of you walking around and not looking at me…..i dont know what it means and she said im mad at you we dont have any closing shifts together anymore…..and i first asked her out on a closing shift we had……so what do you think does she only like me as a friend and the coworker was lying? or does she want more ? please help im lost
does she like me as more than a friend?

10pts for best answer. A restaurant manager was flirting me this one time, (and it was definitely more flirtatious then the normal friendliness of managers) and I had already seen him a couple of times, so the fourth time there was flirting, eye contact etc and he made it a point to get to know me a bit better…SO, I slipped him my number voluntarily.

He calls me and texts me immediately and informs you that I forgot something there. I basically reply saying thanks. Then, I texted him a week later saying I was sorry and was busy, would try to come the next day. And he said, sure anytime, its safe. I didn’t have time to pick it up so I only went back after a month as I had left town soon after I gave him my #.

I picked it up when I got back though, he was happy to see me, made conversation but didn’t really initiate anything definite. He just gave me a nice goodbye and he said I will see you soon..

–So what happened? Did I seem desperate? Did he lose interest? Is all hope gone? ?

10pts for best answer. A restaurant manager was flirting me this one time, (and it was definitely more flirtatious then the normal friendliness of managers) and I had already seen him a couple of times, so the fourth time there was flirting, eye contact etc and he made it a point to get to know me a bit better…SO, I slipped him my number voluntarily.

He calls me and texts me immediately and informs you that I forgot something there. I basically reply saying thanks. Then, I texted him a week later saying I was sorry and was busy, would try to come the next day. And he said, sure anytime. I didn’t have time to pick it up so I only went back after a month as I had left town soon after I gave him my #.

I picked it up when I got back though, he was happy to see me, made conversation but didn’t really initiate anything definite. He just gave me a nice goodbye and he said I will see you soon..

–So what happened? Did I seem desperate? Did he lose interest? Is all hope gone? ?