When I take my contact out, my eye feels like there is something in it. I blink a lot and have discomfort. When I put the contact back in, nothing. People keep saying maybe I scratched my cornea but today at a restaurant, my eye clouded over. I didn’t blink and went to the bathroom and could see a hair or something in my eye. I tried to get it out but alas I blinked and it disappeared back into my eye. Any guesses or solutions?

In college, at work in a restaurant, and even in the bus, I am having a frustrating issue with the opposite sex in all ages. They tend to close their legs or try to avoid my eye contact on their boobs. Im 21 male and I do like women in general but I don’t like to make them feel uncomfortable around me. So are these act human nature or do I need to get fixed or something? Sometimes guys do it too all ages. Im not gay, but boy is this frustrating. So do I need to work on eye contact or what.

The waitstaff not only spoke English, they also cared about how they served their customers
When I first came to this country 20 years ago, I remember that going to a nice(not fancy) restaurant was exciting not only because of the food but also how I could interact with the waitstaff. 98% of the times, I enjoyed talking to them when they introduced the specials of the evening, chithatted with me about my day, joked about stuff. Most of these people knew what they were doing, they knew about the food they served and they cared about how they served their customers.
Nowadays, you get these Mexican/Latino servers, most of them have NO CLUE what they are doing, you are lucky if you get an eye contact. I once went to a place where I used to love, then they started to have some Mexicans serving, and this one Mexican guy was so clueless, I had to tell him that I needed a menu!
oh Looky,
Breaking News,
Wendy’s is not considered a “real” restaurant
And do me and the rest of average Americans a favor, keep your snobs inside your gated neighborhood. There are a lot of us average Americans who care about the communities and quality of life for average people. Quite honestly, it was the Rich Snobs who heavily contributed to this problem. They are rich, but they are dirt cheap, they couldn’t bear paying their staff a living wage.

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I’m a senior in high school and I am in a “relationship” with my English teacher. He is 48 years old and married. I put relationship in quotes because I’m not sure what else to call it. I don’t know how it started but I just started noticing him making eye contact with me during lectures and flirting with me in front of the class. Then he started calling me in after school asking me if I needed any help. He asked for my number and I gave it to him. I just thought he was a teacher who wanted me to succeed. Then he started calling me and we would have these amazing conversations. He tells me about his failing marriage and his ideals in life and I talk to him about what I think about. Its strange how he is so easy to talk to. We also sometimes go out to festivals and fancy restaurants or coffee and a walk in the park. At 17 I feel like I belong with him. He’s kissed me a couple times, but as far as romance goes he just reads me love poems. I know all too well how wrong it is. I didn’t ask for a romantic relationship with him. We just make a great pair. I have seemed to shun society and their doubts and taboos. But I don’t know what to do as far as him being married. I feel gross just thinking about it. His wife does not like me what so ever. But we are just so happy together. But its so wrong? I never thought this would happen to me.

Should I stay or should I leave? It all comes down to that. If I stay I would be happy. If I leave I would give up the most exciting thing that’s ever happened to me for the moral ideals of society.

What do you think?

P.S.
You can say EWWW THAT’S ILLEGAL all you want. I don’t care.

Long story short, I met an interesting girl (22) and I’m 22 the other day. My job required me to sit for hours and check people in their rooms ect. and often things were slow. Anyway she’d come over and chat every now and then and my last night of working there 2 nights ago (job ended) she came over and we talked for 30+ minutes and I felt we had a lot in common. I am usually very good at picking up body language and she seemed very interested since she was holding eye contact, smiling, fooling with her name tag ect. When the topic of bar’s and restaurants down town came (since she’s new) I said why don’t we meet up sometime and she agreed and we exchanged numbers and said good night. I texted her later the next day saying if she’d be down for dinner Tuesday evening at such and such place around 7pm, she said she’d get back to me on that since she has to check her schedule (she has a semi busy job in the dorms) and I said “alrighty” .However we both talked about how our course schedules are light this semester ect.

It’s been about 48 hours. Should I ask again in a day or two and just say “grab a quick ice cream on campus” or just leave it and move on? I was thinking maybe saying tomorrow “hey I can’t make it anyway, how about friday night at (such and such place downtown)”

It’s a shame to move on because I felt like things clicked so well in person and that doesn’t happen very often when it comes to girls. It hurts to think that all of this might have been fake or once she saw I was interested she gave me her number to “be nice” when I really could have just gotten blunt honesty to save so much time and confusion. I can handle rejection pretty well.

Girls don’t give numbers to “be nice” it’s nice to know right away if you are interested or not, don’t string guys along.

Seeking to help [Britains] sometimes snarky citizens offer a warmer welcome, the tourism bureau has updated its advice for anyone likely to work with travellers arriving from overseas — from hotel staff to taxi drivers.

New guidelines from VisitBritain ahead of the 2012 London Olympics warn that:

- Canadians tend to be offended when they are when mistaken for Americans.
- Hold off from hugging an Indian, the guide advises, and don’t be alarmed if the French are rude.
-Don’t go around asking Brazilians personal questions and never be bossy with visitors from the Middle East.”VisitBritain said research it had conducted found tourists believe Britons are honest and efficient — but not the most pleasant. Britain is ranked 14th out of 50 in the Anholt-GfK Roper Nation Brands Index on the quality of welcome offered to visitors, the tourism agency said.

The frank etiquette tips were written by agency staff about their own native countries.

- Polish tourists are likely to be hurt by stereotypes that imply they drink excessively, while the - - French are notoriously picky in restaurants.”
eta:
[I know that's true and what makes them the most disliked tourists in all of Europe - maybe the whole world. They don't want to eat anything, and they are notorious for being rude. I would like to add "rip off" artist (some, obviously not all). If you're a tourist they will change you a much higher cab fare than they will one of their own. Let's hope they have meters in their cabs now.]

More:
- U.K. workers are told to brush off common Argentine jokes about a person’s clothing or weight.
- Belgians take offense at people snapping their fingers.
- Australians are fond of coarse language.
- Japanese people consider prolonged eye contact impolite and smile to express a range of emotions — not simply to show happiness.

Tourism workers are ADVISED TO SHOW EXTRA PATIENCE when dealing with:

*Indians: impatient, demanding, brusque. Indians also don’t like being touched by strangers and may be suspicious about the quality of British food, the guide said, without noting the latter might be a common concern.

*United Arab Emirates: Travellers from the Middle East are likely to be demanding with staff and “are not used to being told what they can’t do,” the guide warns.

*Guests from China and Hong Kong may find winking or pointing with an index finger rude, while “mentioning failure, poverty or death risks offense,” the advice claims. Chinese visitors may be unimpressed by landmarks just a few hundred years old, tourism staff are told.

*Tourism workers are advised against discussing poverty, immigration, earthquakes or the Mexican-American war with visitors from Mexico

And Americans? They can appear “informal to the point of being very direct or even rude” and won’t ever hesitate about complaining, the guide says.

So what do you think? Comments?
I forgot one that I had read about elswhere: don’t ask Middle Eastern men about how wives. This is a serious social faux pas. If you must make conversation, its best to ask about male children.
Reminds me of an old joke.
What’s the definition of heaven?
A French cook, an English cop, and a German mechanic.
What’s the definition of hell?
A French mechanic, a German cop and an English cook.
Rachel, I’m not saying each and every French person is rude. I also had good experiences while there. But on the whole… brace yourself. They’ll never stop moaning about the food, wait for it.
The “hugging Indians” thing is pretty inane, I do sooo agree. I suggest this “Information Packet” is in need of a makeover.

Lets say your out at the mall, club, restaurant or wherever…What kinda signs do you show? Eye contact, smile, wave? Has anyone here ever been bold enough to approach a guy? My problem is that when im out I get eyecontact from women of all races and alot of smiles aswell, but I can never decipher whether or not I should try and talk to them or not…

Last week—-There is a man i met in meeting with some other colleagues. I am trainee so i didnt say a word. My other colleagues were talking and i was silent. I had strong attraction towards him and i couldnt take my eyes of him. Even tho i wasnt talking, he was making some eye contact with me more than others.

Yesterday i went alone to his office, i could send him email but i wanted to see him, so i kinda changed my voice to more softer and i was like excuse me the meeting is cancelled and he was like ok, i told him that i wont attend the meeting and he said okay, i then continued to say i sent you thank you email as well and he said whats your name? i told him my name. I was bit nervous because i knew i look extremely dumb because instead of going to him i could give him a buzz and i asked him can i have your card. He said yes and gave me and i said i will let you know about the meeting and he said beautiful and i left.

Do you think he is attracted to me in anyway? i have strong attraction towards him and he is around 56+ i guess and i am 25.

And how can i attract him if so? he works in same company i work as well.
How can I be abvious to him that i have attraction towards him?

Yesterday— I was talking to colleague and i saw him walking towards the exit. So he came passed in front of me and i said hello and smiled and he just nod his head.

What do u think of this man? and how can i attract him? And do u think in any way he is attracted to me?

p.s. i have resigned from the company so i have 9 days.

Yesterday: I had some papers which he cannot help but for the heck of it i went to his office and said i need to meet you. He looked at me annoyed as he was busy and said come after 30 minutes.

I went back after 30 minutes and he looked at me and said again oh pls come again after 30 min because i am busy. I got annoyed and said okay. I went after 30 min and he told me to sit down.

I gave him the paper and asked if he could help with his products. He said no i cannot because i deal with so and so and he looked annoyed. I then said okay can u pls tell me what you deal with exactly because i am trainee. He said ok. i will send u thru email.

I was like ok how long u r here? he said few years. He asked me for my age? I was like i am 25. He asked me if i have social friends outside work and what dress do i usually wear? I was like it depends. He went on to ask do u often meet your friends etc? i asked him if he lives with his family( considering he is married bcoz there is ring ).

He said no i live alone. He asked me the places i like to go?I tried my best to keep the conversation going so i asked him so many questions about his work and his career experiance(which honestly means nothing but i just wanted to talk more). I then told him i resigned and i will leave the company. He asked which place i was going? i told him i am going to do my master in another city. He said ok i usually come to that city so can i meet you? i was like of course. He said leave your phone number of that other city before u leave.

We talked about religion,politics, financial crisis etc.. and i asked him do u have phone number? he gave me his business card and said my mobile is there. He then asked me to give my mobile number to him which i did. Believe it or not we were talking for one hour and 30 minutes and time passed so quick. After i left i sent him text saying nice to meet you. Which he replied thank you rachel.

Today: I sent him email in the company email saying “morning how are you? there is good restaurant i eat my lunch usually, below is the no. if you are interested”.

He replied back after one hour saying “thank you rachel, I will try.

Thats all.

Now my question, do you think he is interested? and how can i continue from here? pls help
p.s. i dont want to look desperate to him as well but i still wanna attract him

I asked this girl to hangout and get coffee and catch up because we hadn’t seen each other in years. She was engaged to another guy at the time and I was just wanting to hang out with her because she is a really cool girl

Well her and her fiance broke up two weeks ago (they had been together for years.) The next time I talk to her I ask her how she’s doing. She tells me her and the guy had broke up, and she’s not OK right now but hopefully she will be. The next time after that we are talking and at the end of the conversation she asks me to let her know when I want to “meet.” I hadn’t suggested a meeting time because I didn’t really want to be seen as her “girlfriend shoulder to cry on” type. It was a few weeks after their breakup and I asked her over the phone if she wanted to meet for coffee. She said yes. We met at the shop. She hugged me and I told her she looked great and she said I did too. I open doors and pull out chairs doing the gentlemen thing cause that’s what I do. She paid for her order and didn’t seem to expect me to pay. She had it paid for before I had the chance to offer to pay. We talk and the conversation goes well. She asks questions about me I ask a lot about her. We laugh and are having a good time. At one point in the evening I touch her arm admiring her bracelet. So the touch barrier is broken for sure, her body language is telling me she is interested (although it may just be interest in the conversation at the time.) She’s leaning forward, lots of eye contact, her foot pointed at me and she doesn’t keep much distance between us. During the conversation she does mention a guy she thinks is hot (although he is her dentist and he is married and I had asked her where she goes to the dentist at because I needed to find a new one.) She also mentioned the breakup and stated that she missed “having someone to talk to” and her ex’s cooking because she hated to cook. (After I had mentioned I liked to cook and was good at it!) She said “I guess I shouldn’t be talking about other guys….” and kind of trailed off. I didn’t react and just kind of ignored it because I’m not really the jealous type. I know if a girl is talking about other guys that she thinks are hot that may be a bad sign… but I don’t know what she was doing there for sure. I think she is trying to figure out if I like her by seeing if I react? Or she may be trying to hint that she isn’t interested in me? We hugged and left 2 hours later. She told me she had fun and she hinted at wanting to do something again. I have known this girl and liked her for years but the whole time I knew her she was dating and then engaged to her now ex. He was an immature muscle bound guy. I think she wasn’t ready for marriage is why they broke up. I have never made any move or made it obvious that I liked her and still haven’t. She talks to me whenever I am online on IM. I make sure to appear busy and I don’t act like a friend so much (as in I’m busy talking to other people too and not always available.) I plan on either asking her to meet again at a restaurant for a meal, or asking her on a date to a movie, but I don’t know if she would be ready yet to go on a date even if she was interested in me. She’s a really friendly social person, but she doesn’t talk to a lot of guys and flirt with a lot of guys.

I appreciate any insight I can get into the female mind and I can handle it if it doesn’t sound like she is interested in me I just want to have a better idea. Also if I am honest I would consider her to be out of my league, but I try not to judge people by appearances. She is like a 8 and I am a 6 at my very best. Her ex, myself, and the guy she talked about being hot are all “bigger” guys so I may just be her type. Around her I am confident, a little cocky but not much, and I tease and flirt with her a lot, so I doubt she thinks I just want to be friends. Thanks for any help!!
Thanks for the great answers so far! God I love the internet. They were engaged for three years, it has been a little over two weeks since they broke up now. I think she broke up with him because she wasn’t ready for marriage. I will most likely keep hanging with her occasionally and I will take things slow I think. As long as I am hanging out with other friends and looking at other girls I see nothing wrong with the situation. I will try and help her figure out what went wrong as one person suggested. I will still be flirtatious with her but no asking her on a date until she shows some more signs of being interested in taking things in that direction. Keep those answers coming if you have any other suggestions or interpretation! You have no idea how much this helps me think this out.

I have about 3 questions on SAD. I would be so relieved if any of you who know what you’re talking about can answer these. Ok, number one. I believe I have Social Anxiety. I can’t know for sure until I see a psychiatrist, but I wanted to know if I seem like someone who might have it. My symptoms are…I feel scared to eat infront of people, sometimes I can’t make eye contact, I hate being the center of attention, I get beyond and extremely scared when public speaking (like in front of class), I can’t do things I want because I’m too afraid of being watched or criticized. Also, it’s weird, but I can be myself in videos I’m sending to friends, but let’s say if we were video chatting in real life where we can both see eachother, I would refuse. I make up excuses to go places with family, or video chat. I couldn’t even go to McDonalds in by myself to get something while my Mom was waiting for me. At school, every day, I usually blush a lot, and sweat due to my embarassment. I don’t even want to be seen in classrooms. I feel like I can’t make eye contact with teachers, and meeting new people can be scary for me. And I tend to act weird around some people I know sometime. And my whole Dad’s side of the family say I never show up to anything or talk, but I don’t think they understand. And when I’m in public, I feel like I’m walking funny. Recently, I was at a restaurant, and I thought people were staring at me the whole time, and looking at me. I had to sit a certain way to avoid me almost being able to not eat at all. And I feel like changing is scary..I want to do some different things, but I JUST CAN’T. And at the hair salon place, I could barely even talk to the hair dresser. I couldn’t look in myself in the salon mirror because I’m afraid she would see me. And usually if I talk to someone one-on one (like they know I’m talking to them), I usually get an attitude and start acting as if I don’t want to talk to them (this is for adults) But at school, I basically feel like everyone is just judging me. And now making friends is sort of hard for me. So it’s good that I already have my tight group of friends. At the grocery store, I ask my mom to come to certain aisles with me so I won’t be watched or alone around people. Also, I can’t even answer the phone sometimes when it rings. Do I sound like someone with SAD? Question number two: What are the best methods for treating Social Anxiety? Question number three: If I were to take medicine for it, how would i feel different, and in what ways would I act around people in public..and just how would I be..how would i feel in social situations? Getting an answer would be thrilling to me.