Hi,

I recently (and ever so stupidly) “applied” to be a secret shopper. This person named Jeffery Anderson said that he would have me do two assignments. One as a western union and the other as a restaurant shop. He wrote an email with the details and asked me to confirm that I had received the emails.

I wrote back that I had read the email. Days later two Money Orders showed up in my mailbox. Long story short, I did my research and they are fraudulent. I’m kind of scared to turn this guy in seeing he has my name, address, and phone number. Should I be scared? What should I do? I know I need to turn them in but I’m afraid someone is gonna show up at my door.

Please don’t respond by “you shouldn’t have done that” cuz it’s kinda obvious and it’s only gonna freak me out more! He’s already called my cell!

So my ex boyfriend and I only dated for 3 months. We meet at the restaurant he works at. I broke up with him a couple times during the 3 months because he could only see me once a week and I resented him for that. He had really strong feelings for me, and sometimes would make reference to marriage. He ended up breaking up with me because he started to resent me for breaking his heart by breaking up with him so many times. He told me he couldn’t be with me because he did not want to feel the pain again that i put him through every time I would break up with him. After that, he started being so mean to me. He wouldn’t talk to me when I would go to eat at the restaurant he worked at (which I have been going to regularly before I started dating him, it has been my favorite restaurant for years and i refuse to give that up just because he works there). I sent him an email apologizing for what i put him through and telling him i would like to put it past us and move on as friends if not just be civil to one another. He sent me an email back saying all these awful things about me. I wanted to fire back and start saying mean things to him but instead I just deleted the email and moved on. A couple months later I met my current boyfriend who I have been dating now for 6 months. My boyfriend and I will sometimes go to my favorite restaurant for dinner, which my ex boyfriend just happens to work at. Occasionally my ex will be working when me and my boyfriend come in. The last time we came into the restaurant for dinner, my ex sent me a txt when I got home telling me I shorted my waiter 3 cents on the bill. (Yes, im serious. He actually sent me a txt over that ****), I sent him a txt back saying my bad and to tell the waiter I would cover him double next time I came back in. He sent me a text saying that I have shorted my waiter a couple times before (which is a lie he made up) and that he spoke to the manager and he said that I might as well not come into his restaurant anymore (which is a lie too, the manager did not say that). Why is he being so mean to me? I have gotten over him and moved on and he as a new girlfriend too. I just don’t understand why he has to find a way to hurt me and make me sad. Why doesn’t he just leave me alone?

There is guy in another dept i saw once and i had strong attraction towards him. He doesnt know me even tho he saw me. I am 25 yrs old trainee and he is 56 yrs old..

Yesterday— I had some papers which he cannot help but for the heck of it i went to his office and said i need to meet you. He looked at me annoyed as he was busy and said come after 30 minutes.

I went back after 30 minutes and he looked at me and said again oh pls come again after 30 min because i am busy. I got annoyed and said okay. I went after 30 min and he told me to sit down.

I gave him the paper and asked if he could help with his products. He said no i cannot because i deal with so and so and he looked annoyed. I then said okay can u pls tell me what you deal with exactly because i am trainee. He said ok. i will send u thru email.

I was like ok how long u r here? he said few years. He asked me for my age? I was like i am 25. He asked me if i have social friends outside work and what dress do i usually wear? I was like it depends. He went on to ask do u often meet your friends etc? i asked him if he lives with his family( considering he is married bcoz there is ring ).

He said no i live alone. He asked me the places i like to go?I tried my best to keep the conversation going so i asked him so many questions about his work and his career experiance(which honestly means nothing but i just wanted to talk more). I then told him i resigned and i will leave the company. He asked which place i was going? i told him i am going to do my master in another city. He said ok i usually come to that city so can i meet you? i was like of course. He said leave your phone number of that other city before u leave.

We talked about religion,politics, financial crisis etc.. and i asked him do u have phone number? he gave me his business card and said my mobile is there. He then asked me to give my mobile number to him which i did. Believe it or not we were talking for one hour and 30 minutes and time passed so quick. After i left i sent him text saying nice to meet you. Which he replied thank you rachel.

Today: I sent him email in the company email saying “morning how are you? there is good restaurant i eat my lunch usually, below is the no. if you are interested”.

He replied back after one hour saying “thank you rachel, I will try.

Thats all.

Now my question, do you think he is interested? and how can i continue from here? pls help

p.s. I have resigned from the company so i have few days left

There is guy in another dept i saw once and i had strong attraction towards him. He doesnt know me even tho he saw me. I am 25 yrs old trainee and he is 56 yrs old..

Yesterday— I had some papers which he cannot help but for the heck of it i went to his office and said i need to meet you. He looked at me annoyed as he was busy and said come after 30 minutes.

I went back after 30 minutes and he looked at me and said again oh pls come again after 30 min because i am busy. I got annoyed and said okay. I went after 30 min and he told me to sit down.

I gave him the paper and asked if he could help with his products. He said no i cannot because i deal with so and so and he looked annoyed. I then said okay can u pls tell me what you deal with exactly because i am trainee. He said ok. i will send u thru email.

I was like ok how long u r here? he said few years. He asked me for my age? I was like i am 25. He asked me if i have social friends outside work and what dress do i usually wear? I was like it depends. He went on to ask do u often meet your friends etc? i asked him if he lives with his family( considering he is married bcoz there is ring ).

He said no i live alone. He asked me the places i like to go?I tried my best to keep the conversation going so i asked him so many questions about his work and his career experiance(which honestly means nothing but i just wanted to talk more). I then told him i resigned and i will leave the company. He asked which place i was going? i told him i am going to do my master in another city. He said ok i usually come to that city so can i meet you? i was like of course. He said leave your phone number of that other city before u leave.

We talked about religion,politics, financial crisis etc.. and i asked him do u have phone number? he gave me his business card and said my mobile is there. He then asked me to give my mobile number to him which i did. Believe it or not we were talking for one hour and 30 minutes and time passed so quick. After i left i sent him text saying nice to meet you. Which he replied thank you rachel.

Today: I sent him email in the company email saying “morning how are you? there is good restaurant i eat my lunch usually, below is the no. if you are interested”.

He replied back after one hour saying “thank you rachel, I will try.

Thats all.

Now my question, do you think he is interested? and how can i continue from here? pls help

p.s. I have resigned from the company so i have few days left

I found out my girlfriend was emotionally cheating with someone else, and she begged me for another chance and I gave it to her. So I waited a few days to see if she would offer me her password for her to prove to me that she is serious about making our relationship work by letting me know she has nothing else to hide on Facebook.

I told her if it would have been the other way around and if I would have emotionally cheated on her on Facebook I would have automatically offered her my password if given another chance to let her know I have nothing to hide. Well tonight I brought that up about the password thing to her and she had a serious atttiude and she was like “no why you need my password?” I then told her seem to me you have something to hide and she got mad and said just forget it and she hung up the phone and I told her she has something to hide and I asked her password when she was at dinner with her friends and she said she forgot it, and when she got home she claimed she changed it to something she remember, but honestly it is hard for me to believe.

I think she is still trying to cheat on Facebook and I deleted all my social media profiles after being in a relationship out of respect and she still wants to hang on to Facebook the place I caught her cheating the first time and she even admitted she cheated on Facebook and then tonight in front of her friends at her house she tried to embarrass me over the phone and yell at me and try to make herself appear innocent and she said she did not cheat, she said “you act like I cheated on you”, I then told her how could you lie? I then said to her, yeah I see in front of your friends you try to lie and say you did not cheat, but I told her do you remember that email you sent me admitting you cheated, then she got quiet, because she know it is the truth.

I let her know she is trying to put on a show in front of her friends as if she is innocent and as of tonight having the nerve to say she feels like I do not need her Facebook password after she emotionally cheated on there, which is still cheating, and I told her if I would have been in her situation I would have offered my girlfriend my password to let her know I have nothing to hide, but she obviously has something to still hide, and I told her yeah you going to give me your password after you delete messages you do not want me to find, and she gets mad and changes her password like last time, she plays games and she has something to hide still. Last time I caught her I asked her for her password and caught her off guard, this time I messed up I asked her when she was at the restaurant with her friends, and she claimed she made a new password she did not know, and she told me she wrote it down somewhere at her house, and when she got home she gave me trouble as if she did not want me to have it which is very strange, and she always try to turn stuff around on me without looking at herself, and she is very immature for her age, and I am a younger adult but more mature than her, she just lies and plays games.

I told her do not try to call me when your friends are not around and beg me to take you back again. I was fool to even consider taking her back again, and she tried to insult me tonight in front of her friends trying to make it as if I am the bad one when it is really her and I told her if she goes to bed tonight without trying to solve things, because I hate going to bed mad at someone and I feel like if we cannot solve things before going to bed tonight then forget about.

I also did tell her after she cheated she does not deserve me anyway and I feel she is still trying to hide stuff on Facebook and she may still be cheating since she is on guard with her password and she acts like she don’t want me to have it, and tonight she did say it but she said it so fast I could not hear her so I told her do not worry about it. I told her she obviously has something to hide for her to make that comment when she said I do not need her facebook password she said I should just believe whatever she says.

I think she is still playing games or cheating, something is not right and it upset me even more she tried to make the emotional cheating as if it was nothing I told her it may not be physical cheating but it is still cheating and it is wrong and immature. Do you all agree that she still have something to hide with the Facebook thing, and what do you all think of all this and how would you all handle this and please tell how to deal with everything?

(Please excuse grammar errors)

I found out my girlfriend was emotionally cheating with someone else, and she begged me for another chance and I gave it to her. So I waited a few days to see if she would offer me her password for her to prove to me that she is serious about making our relationship work by letting me know she has nothing else to hide on Facebook.

I told her if it would have been the other way around and if I would have emotionally cheated on her on Facebook I would have automatically offered her my password if given another chance to let her know I have nothing to hide. Well tonight I brought that up about the password thing to her and she had a serious atttiude and she was like “no why you need my password?” I then told her seem to me you have something to hide and she got mad and said just forget it and she hung up the phone and I told her she has something to hide and I asked her password when she was at dinner with her friends and she said she forgot it, and when she got home she claimed she changed it to something she remember, but honestly it is hard for me to believe.

I think she is still trying to cheat on Facebook and I deleted all my social media profiles after being in a relationship out of respect and she still wants to hang on to Facebook the place I caught her cheating the first time and she even admitted she cheated on Facebook and then tonight in front of her friends at her house she tried to embarrass me over the phone and yell at me and try to make herself appear innocent and she said she did not cheat, she said “you act like I cheated on you”, I then told her how could you lie? I then said to her, yeah I see in front of your friends you try to lie and say you did not cheat, but I told her do you remember that email you sent me admitting you cheated, then she got quiet, because she know it is the truth. I feel like a fool even considering taking back someone that cheated on me, shame on me, but I thought she was going to change her attitude, but she is still so nonchalant about everything.

I let her know she is trying to put on a show in front of her friends as if she is innocent and as of tonight having the nerve to say she feels like I do not need her Facebook password after she emotionally cheated on there, which is still cheating, and I told her if I would have been in her situation I would have offered my girlfriend my password to let her know I have nothing to hide, but she obviously has something to still hide, and I told her yeah you going to give me your password after you delete messages you do not want me to find, and she gets mad and changes her password like last time, she plays games and she has something to hide still. Last time I caught her I asked her for her password and caught her off guard, this time I messed up I asked her when she was at the restaurant with her friends, and she claimed she made a new password she did not know, and she told me she wrote it down somewhere at her house, and when she got home she gave me trouble as if she did not want me to have it which is very strange, and she always try to turn stuff around on me without looking at herself, and she is very immature for her age, and I am a younger adult but more mature than her, she just lies and plays games.

I told her do not try to call me when your friends are not around and beg me to take you back again. I was fool to even consider taking her back again, and she tried to insult me tonight in front of her friends trying to make it as if I am the bad one when it is really her and I told her if she goes to bed tonight without trying to solve things, because I hate going to bed mad at someone and I feel like if we cannot solve things before going to bed tonight then forget about.

I also did tell her after she cheated she does not deserve me anyway and I feel she is still trying to hide stuff on Facebook and she may still be cheating since she is on guard with her password and she acts like she don’t want me to have it, and tonight she did say it but she said it so fast I could not hear her so I told her do not worry about it. I told her she obviously has something to hide for her to make that comment when she said I do not need her facebook password she said I should just believe whatever she says.

I think she is still playing games or cheating, something is not right and it upset me even more she tried to make the emotional cheating as if it was nothing I told her it may not be physical cheating but it is still cheating and it is wrong and immature. Do you all agree that she still have something to hide with the Facebook thing, and what do you all think of all this and how would you all handle this and please tell how to deal with everything?

(Please excuse grammar errors)

I found out my girlfriend was emotionally cheating with someone else, and she begged me for another chance and I gave it to her. So I waited a few days to see if she would offer me her password for her to prove to me that she is serious about making our relationship work by letting me know she has nothing else to hide on Facebook.

I told her if it would have been the other way around and if I would have emotionally cheated on her on Facebook I would have automatically offered her my password if given another chance to let her know I have nothing to hide. Well tonight I brought that up about the password thing to her and she had a serious atttiude and she was like “no why you need my password?” I then told her seem to me you have something to hide and she got mad and said just forget it and she hung up the phone and I told her she has something to hide and I asked her password when she was at dinner with her friends and she said she forgot it, and when she got home she claimed she changed it to something she remember, but honestly it is hard for me to believe.

I think she is still trying to cheat on Facebook and I deleted all my social media profiles after being in a relationship out of respect and she still wants to hang on to Facebook the place I caught her cheating the first time and she even admitted she cheated on Facebook and then tonight in front of her friends at her house she tried to embarrass me over the phone and yell at me and try to make herself appear innocent and she said she did not cheat, she said “you act like I cheated on you”, I then told her how could you lie? I then said to her, yeah I see in front of your friends you try to lie and say you did not cheat, but I told her do you remember that email you sent me admitting you cheated, then she got quiet, because she know it is the truth. I feel like a fool even considering taking back someone that cheated on me, shame on me, but I thought she was going to change her attitude, but she is still so nonchalant about everything. I realize that is why she talks to me in a disrespectful way in front of her friends and by herself and she has no respect and that is not love, and I guess she felt like since I was considering taking her back I guess she felt like she can treat me any type of way and I cannot put up with it.

I let her know she is trying to put on a show in front of her friends as if she is innocent and as of tonight having the nerve to say she feels like I do not need her Facebook password after she emotionally cheated on there, which is still cheating, and I told her if I would have been in her situation I would have offered my girlfriend my password to let her know I have nothing to hide, but she obviously has something to still hide, and I told her yeah you going to give me your password after you delete messages you do not want me to find, and she gets mad and changes her password like last time, she plays games and she has something to hide still. Last time I caught her I asked her for her password and caught her off guard, this time I messed up I asked her when she was at the restaurant with her friends, and she claimed she made a new password she did not know, and she told me she wrote it down somewhere at her house, and when she got home she gave me trouble as if she did not want me to have it which is very strange, and she always try to turn stuff around on me without looking at herself, and she is very immature for her age, and I am a younger adult but more mature than her, she just lies and plays games.

I told her do not try to call me when your friends are not around and beg me to take you back again. I was fool to even consider taking her back again, and she tried to insult me tonight in front of her friends trying to make it as if I am the bad one when it is really her and I told her if she goes to bed tonight without trying to solve things, because I hate going to bed mad at someone and I feel like if we cannot solve things before going to bed tonight then forget about.

I also did tell her after she cheated she does not deserve me anyway and I feel she is still trying to hide stuff on Facebook and she may still be cheating since she is on guard with her password and she acts like she don’t want me to have it, and tonight she did say it but she said it so fast I could not hear her so I told her do not worry about it. I told her she obviously has something to hide for her to make that comment when she said I do not need her facebook password she said I should just believe whatever she says.

I think she is still playing games or cheating, something is not right and it upset me even more she tried to make the emotional cheating as if it was nothing I told her it may not be physical cheating but it is still cheating and it is wrong and immature. Do you all agree that she still have something to hide with the Facebook thing, and what do you all think

(Please excuse grammar errors)

I found out my girlfriend was emotionally cheating with someone else, and she begged me for another chance and I gave it to her. So I waited a few days to see if she would offer me her password for her to prove to me that she is serious about making our relationship work by letting me know she has nothing else to hide on Facebook.

I told her if it would have been the other way around and if I would have emotionally cheated on her on Facebook I would have automatically offered her my password if given another chance to let her know I have nothing to hide. Well tonight I brought that up about the password thing to her and she had a serious atttiude and she was like “no why you need my password?” I then told her seem to me you have something to hide and she got mad and said just forget it and she hung up the phone and I told her she has something to hide and I asked her password when she was at dinner with her friends and she said she forgot it, and when she got home she claimed she changed it to something she remember, but honestly it is hard for me to believe.

I think she is still trying to cheat on Facebook and I deleted all my social media profiles after being in a relationship out of respect and she still wants to hang on to Facebook the place I caught her cheating the first time and she even admitted she cheated on Facebook and then tonight in front of her friends at her house she tried to embarrass me over the phone and yell at me and try to make herself appear innocent and she said she did not cheat, she said “you act like I cheated on you”, I then told her how could you lie? I then said to her, yeah I see in front of your friends you try to lie and say you did not cheat, but I told her do you remember that email you sent me admitting you cheated, then she got quiet, because she know it is the truth. I feel like a fool even considering taking back someone that cheated on me, shame on me, but I thought she was going to change her attitude, but she is still so nonchalant about everything. I realize that is why she talks to me in a disrespectful way in front of her friends and by herself and she has no respect and that is not love, and I guess she felt like since I was considering taking her back I guess she felt like she can treat me any type of way and I cannot put up with it.

I let her know she is trying to put on a show in front of her friends as if she is innocent and as of tonight having the nerve to say she feels like I do not need her Facebook password after she emotionally cheated on there, which is still cheating, and I told her if I would have been in her situation I would have offered my girlfriend my password to let her know I have nothing to hide, but she obviously has something to still hide, and I told her yeah you going to give me your password after you delete messages you do not want me to find, and she gets mad and changes her password like last time, she plays games and she has something to hide still. Last time I caught her I asked her for her password and caught her off guard, this time I messed up I asked her when she was at the restaurant with her friends, and she claimed she made a new password she did not know, and she told me she wrote it down somewhere at her house, and when she got home she gave me trouble as if she did not want me to have it which is very strange, and she always try to turn stuff around on me without looking at herself, and she is very immature for her age, and I am a younger adult but more mature than her, she just lies and plays games.

I told her do not try to call me when your friends are not around and beg me to take you back again. I was fool to even consider taking her back again, and she tried to insult me tonight in front of her friends trying to make it as if I am the bad one when it is really her and I told her if she goes to bed tonight without trying to solve things, because I hate going to bed mad at someone and I feel like if we cannot solve things before going to bed tonight then forget about.

I also did tell her after she cheated she does not deserve me anyway and I feel she is still trying to hide stuff on Facebook and she may still be cheating since she is on guard with her password and she acts like she don’t want me to have it, and tonight she did say it but she said it so fast I could not hear her so I told her do not worry about it. I told her she obviously has something to hide for her to make that comment when she said I do not need her facebook password she said I should just believe whatever she says.

I think she is still playing games or cheating, something is not right and it upset me even more she tried to make the emotional cheating as if it was nothing I told her it may not be physical cheating but it is still cheating and it is wrong and immature. What you think about everything and how I cope with this?

We fired a waitress at our restaurant. She got a tip of .15 cents from a table of 6 who were not satisfied with her service. She took the money, walked out the front door and through it at the customers. The customers just laughed it off and walked to their vehicle and left, but regardless, we let her go at the end of the night. Now she is going onto websites and give us bad reviews. She sent us an email saying she was going to report us for hiring an illegal to wash dishes. This so called illegal is a hard working person who needed a job and we were just trying to help this person out. We are actually trying to get them to be legal and this is what we hope. Either way, this fired employee is on the warpath. I mean has anyone here ever had experience dealing with an extremely angry person after you fired them?

I came from USA to Netherlands and I have an excellent experience about accountant, costumer services and cash handling …… but I am just speaking English language, I live in north of Amsterdam I am looking for the job part time or full time in any company or restaurant or shopping center.
contact me this is my email ( lanamuhamad_1981@yahoo.com)
or this phone No ( 0644710300 )