I have two lovers….one that began as a physical relationship about 4 years ago and ended due to feelings making things complicated. A year later when I moved cross country I met the perfect man…our relationship is perfect….we adore each other. However….I’m a “freak”…I like aggressive sex, I have fantasies and fetishes that my boyfriend doesn’t seem to care for. He is great in bed but he loves routine and an organized structured environment….our sex is always the same….once in a while we spice it up by changing rooms in the house but its always the same positions….that’s about as adventurous as it gets for us. If I mention pulling over on the side of the road or having sex in a restaurant bathroom he’ll give me a look like i’m crazy so therefore I don’t feel comfortable telling him my fantasies. About a year ago I decided to have lunch with my ex lover and we quickly started having sex again….this lover on the other hand is just as sexual and adventurous as I am so we have an amazing sexual relationship and we feel love for each other but we’re not in love. I only see him while vacationing alone and we instant message sometimes to keep in touch. So, my issue is this….the man that can provide me with security, abundant love, and appreciation is my current boyfriend, I can’t imagine my life without him….the man that lights my fire, brings meaning to songs, and awakes a passion within me is my other lover which I can’t picture growing old with….

I know what I am doing to my boyfriend is wrong but I feel like its right for me….I am young and beautiful and want to enjoy every minute of this feeling because my youth is passing me by so fast I don’t want to wake up one day and regret always living my best years cooped up in a big house waiting for my boyfriend to get home from work….he’s a good man but my whole life has changed for him and I feel like this other man is my little treat for me….my escape from everyday life…am I a terrible person?

Hi. I am an 18 year old man and am going into college. I would like to try modeling as a means to make money while I’m in college (I work as a waiter/kitchen staff in a higher end restaurant now but would really like a change of pace since my job is extremely stressful). Anyway, since I have decided to pursue this choice of work, I have been trying to improve my physique. I have been a cross-country/long distance runner all 4 years of high school so I have a lot of lean muscle mass but now I am trying to gain some muscle mass and improve my definition. I am 6 foot flat ectomorph and am about 152lbs. I have started a three day lifting program, doing like 3 sets of 10 reps for whatever exercise I do (to gain size, definition, and strength), in addition to my running and have been using creatine and whey protein to help expedite the process (I talked to my friend about lifting, since he basically lives in the gym, and have done research with creatine and creatine cycles). Anyway, what I wanted to know is if this is too much. I am in extremely good shape (I can run a 4:30 mile, a 16:30 5k on a xc course and have a resting heart rate of about 47 when I wake up) but I don’t know whether all this working out will counteract the weightlifting that I am doing. I wanted to know if there is a better way to improve my muscular definition because as a long distance runner, I have very little fat and the only foreseeable way I can see to improve my definition is to put on some muscle mass. My goal is to have more of a “v-shaped” body, building my upper body a little more (I am very lacking of muscle in that area as a runner), while defining my core a lot more. Personally I would like to say that I am fairly strong, but I don’t look it due to my lack of definition. And its not like I’m over weight (I think I have about 7 percent body fat), I am very health conscious, so I watch what I eat and when I eat and personally, without starving myself a little, I don’t see losing much more weight through nutrition, but hey what do I know, I’m not a nutritionist just a health conscious kid. Any and all help will be much appreciated. Thank you for your time and I look forward to your help/advice.

My wife and I are taking a cross-country road trip adventure to Vegas from Chicago for a week. We’re visiting places you see on “Diners, Drive-Ins, & Dives” on the Food Network when we go through Kansas, but the show never featured any restaurants in Colorado, and we’re stopping over in Denver. So what is the one thing we absolutely need to try in the area (or from Denver on the way to Vegas) or the best restaurant with food we can’t get in Chicago. Any suggestions?

Papa John’s Pizza founder and chief executive John Schnatter hit the road Wednesday on a cross-country road trip, part of a previously announced promotion celebrating his chain’s 25th anniversary that is centered around the prized possession he sold in 1984 to open his first restaurant: a 1972 Z28 Camaro.