OK, I was with my ex “James” for 5 months, and it was undoubtedly the worst 5 months of my life. For starters, he made me move out of my apartment in the city to a basement “apartment” in the rural area he lived in, so that I’d be close to him. The move was very stressful and I got no help from him or his family, and I had to quit my job in the process. I bought a used car on my own, the biggest purchase of my life, and he and his family only told me that I bought a “terrible” car and that I got ripped off by “shiesters.” This was very upsetting to me.

After quitting my job, I had nothing to do during the day but lie in bed and go shopping with him. He told me I was a terrible driver, and I developed a fear of driving to the point I eventually had to have him drive me everywhere — to the grocery store, library, etc because I was too afraid to drive my own car. Being with him was sheer torture. He was always telling me how stupid and ugly I am, how I’m going to amount to nothing in life, how my career ambition of being a lawyer is joke, and he and his parents were always laughing at me because I have a receeding hairline.

I was so depressed, all I wanted to do was lie in bed all day, but he’d find jobs on craigslist for me to apply to, and I eventually got one … at a fast food restaurant. And I got fired too. He also had me work for his father, handing out cheese samples at a grocery store, and I was terrible at that too. He and his parents would always laugh at how I was their “worst” demo person. And then, when it seemed things couldn’t get any worse, I was hospitalized for really bad food poisoning. I was found unconscious in my apartment after collapsing in a pile of my own waste. Yes, I lost control of my bowels and went to the bathroom on the floor. I was taken to the hospital by ambulance, and at first, James and his parents thought I had AIDS, and then, they thought I had attempted suicide because my landlord said she heard “yelling” coming from my “apartment.”

I did not have health insurance, and James thought that was hilarious. When I was discharged, he said to me, “Now do you believe us when we say you need health insurance?” He thought I was going to be forced to pay some ridiculous hospital bill (and couldn’t stop laughing because of that), when in actuality, I never paid the hospital a dime.

After driving me home from the hospital, he stopped talking to me altogether, deeming me too much of a “trainwreck” to be my friend. This was ultimately a blessing in disguise though, because as soon as he left my life, my problems disappeared. I got over my fear of driving. I moved away from him and got a new job. I made some new friends that are nice and supportive to me. But in spite of the dramatic improvements in my life, I can’t stop thinking about him, and how I let a complete stranger destroy my life. He wasn’t even handsome. He’s an ugly, fat @sshole.

Why did I let a stranger destroy my life? And is there anything I can do to prevent this from happening again? Also, how do I stop thinking about him? I just want to move on with my life and forget about him and his parents for good.
Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it. I’ve thought about seeing a therapist. His mom is actually a therapist lol (and she should have her license revoked). And I haven’t given up on being a lawyer. I got into law school, but I was unable to attend because with work, it would just be too demanding right now. I’m also looking into becoming a social worker. Hopefully I’ll be in school again next fall.

I’m 23 years old and weigh 240 lbs. I am 5′3. Now, I will say, I carry my weight fairly well. Most people are surprised if I tell them my weight or pants size (18). I visited a friend a few months ago who is extremely health conscious. She buys all organic, non processed, low fat/sugar foods. I stayed at her house eating her food for 3 weeks…and lost 12 pounds. I dont really excercise. (Unless you count chasing kids around at my home daycare excercising.)

Now, heres the issue. I want to lose weight. I dont want to be a certain size or weigh a certain number, I just want to get healthier. My fiance is also overweight, and I feel like we dont help each other.

The problem is that we are broke. Im always behind on every bill, never have enough money for gas, and am barely putting food in the house. So the food we do eat is bad. Ramen noodles, 88 cent banquet dinners, mac n cheese, etc. I also work nights at a restaurant and tend to grab a burger or something there because its free. We applied for food stamps to help us until we can work out this job situation (which we should qualify for) but we wont know until the end of September. I want to start losing weight now!

I cant afford the gym, I’m embarrassed to run in public, or to excercise period in front of people. The fact is, I am completely happy with myself the way God made me…I’m not happy with the way I made me. We are planning on starting a family and I dont want to bring my children into the world setting them up for failure with 2 overweight parents.

Advice, as well as grocery list suggestions would be awesome!!!

I went out to dinner with my soon to be wife. I ordered some food and asked to have it without cheese. When the food came out there was cheese covered in it. I told her i asked with out she. She then says cant you just wipe the cheese off. I then replied no take it back and make me one with out cheese and i did the hand sign to go away and do it. Was i being rude in this situation what is your take on it?

Was wondering what type of dishes do you make for your family. I’m Italian and I don’t put sauce and Mozzarella cheese on everything. I don’t eat at Italian restaurants. So if I want real Chinese food where would I go, or what should I order?

Is there anywhere in Puerto Vallarta that serves American cuisine (wings, chili-dogs, rib-eye steaks, mac&cheese) with air-conditioning and hot girls for servers?

Had some wonderful baby parm soufflé at Ottos in NY a few months back and have been craving it ever since.

Whats your favorite fast food restaurant?
What do you like to get the most when you go there?
What exactly is it? What is it called?
Does you favorite meal include cheese?
What sauce and or condiments do you put on it?
What beverage do you drink with it?
What dessert do you eat there?
What did you get the last time you went there?
How often do you go there?
How much do you like the food?
any more details.

sorry for so many questions…….

and a few bonus questions (you dont have to answer these).
Are you male or female?
How old are you?
What do you look like?
girls answer only!

Okay so my birthday’s coming up. Anyways my situation is that my mom works, but she promised to take myself, my sister, and a few cousins out to eat afterwards. Only my sister is a vegan (which my mom doesn’t know) So are there any restaurants, that we can attend that offer something without containing milk, eggs, or cheese. It’s like going to dinner with a lactose-intolerant woman. So any suggestions? Thanks! =)

I know it weird to come on here and ask something like this.

I had dinner at a restaurant and I had nachos, and at some point I felt some cheese in my throat. So I stopped eating and drank a bunch of water, I think some went down. So when I came home I drank some more water but it was still there. I thought I would eat something so I did and some went down again, but now it still feels like I have a tiny tiny piece left. I can’t figure out how to get it down. I am breathing fine it just feels weird.

Any suggestions how I can try to get it down.

I like Chucky Cheese, but much prefer Going Bonkers if I have a choice. They have more reasonable food prices, more food choices, and more of exercise friendly things for the kids to do. I also appreciate the fact that they have better video games for us “grown-up” kids. What are your favorite places to take the kids?