So before you go all like “huh?” I’d like to specify that this question is for everyone who’s had a job or those who have the knowledge about jobs, also to those who are managers especially. Here is what’s going on. I am a 16 year old guy with wavy-straight shoulder-length hair. My hair is in good condition. YES I am very girly when it comes to my hair and appearence. I brush my hair every day with a bristle brush, I keep it soft and smooth, well hydrated, and try to hide or get rid of the frizz as much as possible. I have bangs and my hair is redish. Yes I’ve dyed it. So pretty much as overall, I categorize my hair as beautiful though I want it to be much longer but with the same style. I dress… preppy per say and try my best to look neat and simply normal.
The problem is, as I spoke to my dad about getting a job, he told me something that up to this point is very confusing and it’s angering me in an annoying way. What makes it confusing is that I know he doesn’t like my hair and simply wants me to cut it so badly to the point he even says that if I care about the family I would do it. So this thing he told me before and after I applied at a restaurant that hasn’t considered me as an option yet, I’ve called twice by the way, was that they wont hire me because I have long hair. Now, I do understand that jobs do require or expect to see a person being… not shaggy and messy per say. That’s why I specify above, that I dress as neatly as I can especially with my hair.
My question is, is what he said true?
Note that it’s not like I’m applying for an office kind of employment or a major company for manager. I simply want to apply at a mexican restaurant that pretty much, as far as I’ve seen, has hired people regardless of the way they dressed or looked like. I don’t mind having to tie my hair up in a ponytail, as a matter of fact I do that on my own time.
So again, is this true? Am I not being hired because of my hair? I really love my hair and unless it’s a matter of life and death or extreme necessity, I wont cut it. Especially to satisfy the, honestly speaking, sickening needs of a parent who doesn’t accept his child as he is. So overall, I would be satisfied to know if this is true or not. Does long clean presentable hair affect a high school age level job? Or a higher level by the way? When I wrote that I called the place twice after leaving my application, I was told that there were no openings for the moment, I even know the manager and spoke to her in person, we actually get along and joke around. I have friends who work at that place and I haven’t heard that someone else has gotten hired. So I’m just askin if this is true or not?
Also one more thing I forgot to mention. I also had long nails. Not Cirque Du Soleil long or Ripley’s Believe it or Not long. Just half inch nails that I took care of so much and that everyone, even guys, would praise me and say “wow i wish my nails were that long.” Yes mostly girls said that, but that was another thing my dad hated the most and so did my brothers. He said that my nails were another reason of why I wasn’t getting hired. Nail description: other than the length, my nails were always clean. I would use a nail filler to keep them in good shape, and I kept them always neat and shiny. However, I chopped them off eventually because they were breaking and had damaged spots than needed to be taken care off which eventually led to keep them trimmed just to stop the complaints of my family members who would insult me and pretty much tell me I was an embarrassment to them, except my mom. I now have like less than quarter of an inch nails and are very strong by the way. VERY STRONG. So another quick question is was he right about my non hobo-like beautiful nails too? Could that been another reason of not getting the job? Though people could barely see them unless they would see my hands directly.
So overall, these are my questions. I appreciate respectful comments please.
And to all the mean comments; “sissy, faggot,” etc. I will report them and mark them as span. If you hate guys with long hair or girly features, than don’t bother to write me an answer. If you’re going to give me a judging honest opinion of what you believe the answer is weather it’s on my side or not then you’re more than welcome to answer. That’s what this whole point is about no? lol. I don’t care if I’m right or wrong in this case, I just need to know in a harmless nonviolent way.
Thank you all for reading.
Thanks for the help