So, there is this guy that I am interested in…knew him when I was 16 working at a restaurant, he was the cool server in his 20’s that everyone liked…now I’m 19, and he seems interested in me, and I’m interested too…my question is…I’m seeing signs that make me question whether he is someone I want involved with or not…he DOES have a good job, and he DOES go to sleep early, both of which I like…but I worry, due to past relationships, that certain aspects of his life mean he may be immature of undependable.

For instance…he got a great deal on a really nice car awhile ago…I saw it and drove around in it and everything…now he says the dealer took it back, that it was a long story he’d tell me later…that sounds odd to me…he has no license right now since he didn’t have a car and no insurance…and then the apartment he lives in now…he was sharing it with his girlfriend until she moved out of state for college (they are not going to do long distance. They’ve broken up) and I saw it, it was really nice…he said he was looking for a roommate, and when I asked him awhile later how the search was going, he said that he found out that his apartment is getting sold and so he needs to find another one, though he hopes to find one in the same complex.

I’m scared of getting tricked, I suppose…or used, for anything…money, rides…he only asked me for a ride once to get him to the office to fix his license, but why did he ask me, someone he only just started talking to again?

I worry…I want to believe he is just getting some tough luck…how am I to know if he is, for lack of a nicer word, a loser, or if he is just having some tough times?

The guy I am interested in (I’m 19), and who I think may be interested in me (Age is foggy…I knew him way back when I was 16 working at a restaurant. He was somewhere between 21 to 23 then), is texting me now trying to get me to come over to his house at 1 am in the morning and spend the night…XD

I know that he went out to Applebee’s with his friends, so I’m assuming he’s probably at least tipsy…at least I hope so…I think I’d be a little offended if he was sober…I’m no booty call! whee

Conversation went thus…

After much talking about my car and other various things, I mention how I wanted to use my apartments hot tub since my back hurt, but I felt too intimidated by a group of guys down there to go alone…at night…in a bikini. x.x

He then replies with…

“True. Well we have a hot tub here at the pool and in the apartment. Just to add to the incentives to come hang out haha if u don’t work early I think you should come hang out, take my room and take full use pf the bathtub. It’s the least I could offer for someone who offered me chicken soup haha”

Since I’m pretty sure he’s tipsy, I wiggled my way out, giving excuses such as I needed to stay home to take care of my dog (which is true) but he keeps wanting to ride his bike over here XD If my assumption is right, I think bike riding is the last thing he needs to be doing LOL

ahh…what do you think…hilarious drunk texting, or creepy sober behavior!?

So I used to live with my mom, and I got to see my dad on the weekends. I wanted to see my dad more, so I moved in with him. This was a month or two after his girlfriend broke their engagement. About five-seven months into me living there, his girlfriend came back, and I was delighted to have another female in the house… But I didn’t like it after a while. My dad and her are always being super affectionate together and I feel like I get no love. He rarely ever praises me’ and it makes me very upset because I do everything good for him… His girlfriend is 27 and he is 36. We used to have fun together but I just can’t have fun with her anymore… When we all go out to restaurants, they sit together and hug and put their arms around each other and talk, but the only conversation they have with me is ’so, what are you going to eat?’ they show so much affection to each other… When my dads girlfriend isn’t around, my dad shows some affection, but when she IS around, and i hug or kiss him, he barely responds, almost like he is embarrassed to show affection to me’ around his girlfriend. She has been living with us for a while now in our apartment. I don’t want to live here or at my moms, but at least at my moms I have someone to cry with when I do… Every day I can feel my dads relationship with me fading… I am not some dumb girl that is jealous over nothing… Please don’t think that. I understand she deserves affection, but does that mean all of my affection should be stripped like a sticker and directed at this
other woman?
Tonight i have been thinking, and crying and thinking… And I heard some kind of whispering.. I listened and it was this evil, hissing voice… I said whatever it’s just my brain. I started thinking about what would happen if I went out and committed suicide. I don’t plan on it but I just was thinking about it. I am in bed right now and I thought, what if i went out to the kitchen near my dad is, take a knife and put it through my chest? So I started to cry more and then I heard the voice again… It said “do it. No one will care.’ i hissed back ’shut up!’ it kept whispering at me ‘do it. Come on. Do it! Just go out there and do it!’ so I got scared thinking, is this the devil? So I told it I would not listen to it and I tried to recite the our father prayer. I recite it regularly and easily know it by heart… That moment I forgot it for about five minutes and I got scared, but then it came back to me. I said it and the whole time the voice was hissing at me “stop now!!! STOP!” and I started to cry, but finished the prayer. Now it is cutting me’ down… I sent a prayer to god and asked him to please make this horrible person be quiet. The voice yelled at me saying ‘just give in to me! It’s so easy!’ I stopped my prayer to tell the voice ‘i will not give in to you!’ and he misinterpreted me, thinking I had told god that. He said’yes. That’s right. Don’t five in to that fool. And I told it ‘no, I will not give in to YOU!”just do it”no!!!’

I have a really creepy feeling that somebody is after me’… Watching me’… I am so scared… Please somebody help… If it helps, I am a girl , 12 years old… Just please help me’. I am really scared…
No, this is the first time this has happened..

ok, in which social or economic class can this lifestyle be classified as?

ok, lets say a woman (as we all have to admit that, although there are many men who spent a lot, women are famous for being great spenders)

so, a woman has…

a small or medium apartment, but that looks extremely elegant and well decorated on the inside, with beautiful mobiles in this minimalist way, a beautiful and fashionable car.

these things the person pays in installments.

but she pays her bills right every month…

and still there always rests a lot of money (like more than $2000 so she can spend in fun), so she can spend and pay CASH a lot of the prettiest designer clothes, shoes, jewelry and makeup, all designer…

and also spend around 100 or 200 dollars going, every weekend, to the best and most elegant restaurant and places in city,

of course, always looking great with the best hair, makeup and designer outfits.

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so, in which social or economic class this lifestyle may be classified as?
no, she does NOT pay CASH for everything. ONLY for her designer shoes, designer clothes, brandname makeup and hair care - and out eating every weekend at chic restaurant and places.

but her house, car and mobile she pays in installments, of course.

i’m just trying to confirm if she is high class or high-medium-class. and what ppl would think of having this kind of lifestyle.
well, its HER money, right?
would you go up to her and forbid her from spending the way she wants the money SHE WORKS for?

I am 20 years old. I have the opportunity to move up in the restaurant I work in. I have turned down this opportunity before because I wanted to go to school full time. I moved out of my apartment, moved back in with my parents, and cut my work days down to 3 a week, and enrolled in some classes.

I am not a very school oriented person. I hated high school and it is kind of hard for me to buckle down and write reports and all that…but even now that I have fewer bills to pay, I am struggling with money. I am tempted to take this job so I can make a lot of money while attending school. Problem is, I’d be working 50 hours. Five 10 hour work days…I want to get my associates degree out of the way and get done with it fast, but I don’t want a ton of debt either.

What confuses me even more is what I want for my future…
I want to marry my boyfriend and start a family. He is going to a technical college right now and wants to transfer the credits to a local university. He works 40 hours a week (no homework, though). I feel like getting a degree (higher than an associates) may be a waste of time because I want to stay at home with my kids when I have them. So the amount of money spent on a degree I may not use doesn’t make a whole lot of sense…

So here is my question, I guess…
Should I take the 50 hour a week job and continue school…whatever amount of it I can tolerate while working and save up money and avoid debt…
Or continue my part time (while struggling with money) and continue full time school…

The first option makes sense to me…If I get my associates degree while working so much, I will have the degree to fall back on in the future (and to move on to a higher degree in the future) and will have money saved up for my future family and home…

But I don’t want to be miserable either…

What should I do!!??
What about 50 hours a week at work and 6 or 9 credit hours? That’d be 2 or 3 classes. Still awful or doable??

I live in a townhouse Bel Air currently, I do like my neighbors and the close proximity to all the restaurants, shopping centers, and my school. But it stops there, I do not like the elementary school my son attends. It is also not diverse enough for me or my family, we have had a few run-ins here when it comes to ignorance. It is getting better and more people are moving here every week, but I don’t want to wait. It is also very expensive to live in Bel Air, and I am not sure if it is worth it, crime is the same here as it is every other place I have lived if not more. I have seen crack-heads, someone pulled from a house that overdosed, and a police raid at someone’s home where the guy was growing a crap load of weed, seriously I have pics… I couldn’t believe it. This is suppose to be a great neighborhood and all this happened in the same month. I have seen more of the cops here than I have when I lived in Atlanta, Detroit, and NY.

Now I have done a little research and found out that Joppatowne elementary is supposedly a great school, and I found a very nice apartment in a more comfortable price range, but when I drove to Joppa, there was absolutely nothing around and it looked kind of drab. I am kinda of worried. I know nothing about this city, or the people. I would like to hear from someone who actually lives or have lived there. What do you think of Joppa? Do you like it there? Is it safe for a family with kids in elementary school? Was is there to do? where is everything? I like to shop at safeway, and didn’t see a decent grocery anywhere, I know I could drive to white marsh, but I really don’t like to drive that far. I have been so close to everything for many years now, even before Bel Air, I could walk or ride my bike to the mall, or the grocery store.

Thanks for any help or comments!

My brother is very off. Although my parents don’t seem to notice or mind, other people who meet him find him strange and obnoxious…it’s virtually impossible for him to make new friends and what friends he does have are actually diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. He is incredibly loud (I can heard him from inside the house when I’m out in the street, for instance) and doesn’t realize you can’t shout in a restaurant, he dominates conversations and can’t seem to tell if everyone else is bored or irritated. Somehow, he’s convinced himself that he is a hilarious, entertaining person but doesn’t seem to have a good grasp of comedy or realizing that nobody except for him thinks he’s funny. He also can’t gauge how funny something is…if somebody says something mildly amusing, he’ll laugh way too hard and louder than everyone else. He rarely washes himself (His B.O. is so terrible). He really should wash more often than normal because he is morbidly obese (at least 400 pounds)…this is also an issue because he has no self control in terms of eating and will eat whatever is in the house, no matter how rude or inconvenient it is to other people he lives with. The worst part is you have to kind of take him aside and give him social instructions before you go out. You have to constantly remind him he can’t eat all of the h’our dourves at a family function or yell in a quiet, public place. He’s 27 years old and has been in college for TEN YEARS and yet can’t manage to graduate, but when I bring this up, my parents act incredibly defensive and I actually suspect they know something is off. They pay his rent on an apartment, pay his bills, college tuition and parking tickets…I think it’s so bizarre for parents to be basically coddling a full grown man. He’s allowed to come home whenever and as long as he wants, which he does frequently. I’d kill for my own apartment, but he has one and barely uses it…it’s weird.
What’s wrong with him? I’d feel bad for him if his behavior wasn’t so obnoxious…I’ve suspected for awhile now that he’s on the Autism Spectrum, but he also doesn’t fit all of the criteria. Help?

Me and my wife are separated, I am 25 and she is 24 with a 2 y/o daughter. We aren’t legally separated though. She moved into her father’s house, who is leaving again to go back out of the country. She pays no rent or bills and she has a job as a waitress at a restaurant. I am a pharmacy cashier at Wal-Mart making like a 1.50 over minimum wage, at the moment. I get paid every two weeks. I give her almost half my paycheck every paycheck, I am not court ordered to or have we gone to court. I also have to pay my rent and bills for my apartment and put groceries in the fridge so I can eat (for me and my daughter). I am not even scraping by. I have to have my parents pay my rent at the moment so I can just pay my bills and put food on the table and diapers and such for my daughter. I am wondering what is the legal child support payment in Alabama? We both have our daughter equally. The reason I am asking is because, like today, I got my check gave her $200 of it, paid $100 on my cable bill, bought minimum amount of groceries as I could (which was $80), and now I only have $45 left of my check and I am suppose to survive off of that for two weeks till my next check, which will be the same cycle again but I’ll be even broker because I will have to also pay my utility bill. I’m looking at it as this, I make around $450 a pay check because I am only part time till they can move me full time. So, I give her $200, that leaves me around $250, plus she gets to keep all her paycheck and tip money and not even have to pay bills or rent where she stays and she splits grocery bill at her house with her uncle who is moving in there and she complains that she can’t survive off what I give her and she needs more. I’m like I’M BASICALLY SPLITTING MY CHECK 50/50 WITH YOU! if you can’t survive, how do you expect me to when I have to actually pay bills and such.

So back to the question, what is the child support payment law in Bama? Like I stated, we have not gone to court and I am not court ordered to pay anything because we haven’t gone to court.
To ‘A Canadian’. I work 32 hours a week, I go to school, and I am about to pick up another job at night to scrape by and you saying I don’t live up to what I should be doing .. You are being ignorant right there, seriously.

I got a call from a girl today, and I eventually went to pick her up from her house that is about 15-20 minutes away from where I live and we went to technically dinner, being it was about 6:30pm when I picked her up. We talked the entire drive to the restaurant, she seemed to like my stories and we held a good conversation, being that we left the restaurant about 2 hours later. She then asked what we should do next, and I invited her to visit with my friend for a while, seeing how she needed to be back home by 10, and it was already 9. She said ok, and we visited my friend for a bit, and while there, she decided to approach me and feel my pockets for my cigarettes, take my pack, get a cigarette, then put my pack back in my pocket. We left my friend’s apartment (where I might also mention she didn’t even want to sit down at) then I brought her home. She didn’t do anything when she got out of my vehicle, but proceeded to tell me “text me”. Is she interested?

About 3 years ago, I was pretty much in my first real relationship, I just didn’t know it. A very close friend and I had slowly become inseparable. We were always together, always there for each other, blatantly going  out on dates even, to the movies and to  restaurants on our own.. I was so oblivious, only 17, I didn’t even realize that my love for her was more than friendship - and it turns out that her feelings were the same. But it took me forever to accept even the possibility that I could be attracted to girls (despite every glaringly obvious sign through my whole life.. especially my total disinterest in boys.. hindsight is 20/20 and all that). But 2 years ago my family and I suddenly had to move (halfway across the country..) My dad took on a new job. I had been seriously ill through most of my teen years and had not saved up enough to move out - also I was not ready to be so far from my family. Speaking of my family I haven’t told them any of this at all.. I’m so scared to, I don’t know how they’d react. How do you talk to them about something like this? And my best friend, who is like a sister to me, I worry that she might become awkward around me if I try to seek her advice

I don’t know if I can refer to her as my first girlfriend or not - we  never even kissed - but she later confessed her feelings to me. Looking back, she dropped so many hints that I feel ashamed that I barely picked up on any of them. I adore her and I miss her every day. I am still so confused. The worst part is, I still love her so much. I don’t know what will happen next for us, but we were hoping to go to the same university.. Even share an apartment.. Someday. Should I tell her how I feel.. That no matter what happens, I will always love her, and that if our paths cross again I will be there for her? I miss her so much and I don’t think I can move on.

Even as a friend I miss her. I wish we hadn’t had to move mid-way through my last year of high school.

But thanks so much for reading my insanely long question.