While flipping channels the other night I wound up landing on a show briefly on which a man was discussing how he thinks it’s polite to for men to open car doors for women. I actually open the car doors and other doors for my parents (and, of course, I hold the door to a restaurant, the school, Church, etc. for those behind me), and my dad and I have this random, inside joke where I pull out his chair for him. When my parents and I go out to a nice restaurant my dad pulls out my mom’s chair and mine though (otherwise I just do it myself).

My parents raised me to know that intellectually I could go just as far as any man (in other areas as well, but this is emphasized the most), and I’ve always taken that to heart and been very dedicated to my education. For a long time I’ve just been very put-off by the thought of dating and by guys being more than friends to me, because I feel that my schooling and future career can make my life complete while a guy can’t complete my life (and I wouldn’t want him to).

That leads me to this. It’s very hypocritical of me (I probably shouldn’t have watched all of those old movies growing-up), but I secretly think it’s nice when guys are chivalrous. I believe women should be polite toward men as well and hold doors open for them and things like that, and I definitely am against men paying for things (I’m against anyone paying for me), but I’d think it was nice of a guy if opened my car door (just for getting in; that’s mortifying to admit).

Is it bad to think that’s nice (I wouldn’t be upset by a guy not doing it)? I feel like this goes against everything I’ve ever told myself about being able to deal with things for myself.

I appreciate your opinions (I’m sorry for the length here). Thank you.

Tags: Briefly, Car Door, Car Doors, Dad, Education, Heart, Joke, Leads, Long Time, Mom, More Than Friends, Nice Guy, Nice Guys, Nice Restaurant, Open Doors, Open Question, Parents, Random

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